The Problem with Blame

The problem with blame is that it cuts into the heart. When I blame someone, I can feel it like a knife, cutting me as much as it cuts them. Blame sets the scene for conflict, and there’s already so much conflict. But when thoughts of blame arise, I also notice that it’s also possible to let them go. And when I remember to do that, it’s possible to see underneath, and to realize that these thoughts only arise because of how much I care. I blame my partner or a friend or one of the kids,...