The Perfectionism That Quietly Hides Depression | Dr. Margaret Rutherford

THERE ARE FEW PEOPLE I TRUST WHO HAVEN’T BEEN THROUGH SOME SORT OF ADVERSITY. Many people feel that holding their shame hostage will make them a stronger person. This just isn’t true. It has become very clear to me: If you’re going to heal, you have to find a way to be open about your issues. In order to live in today, you have to be open about your past. This is the key to being comfortable in your vulnerability. This is the key to unlocking the next level of your mental health. So how do we begin to share our shame? On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about breaking free of perfectionism with someone who has been through her own deep journey of embracing her shame: Dr. Margaret Rutehrford. “Narcissism is the diagnosis of the decade ” - @doctor_margaret Dr. Margaret Rutherford has been a psychologist in private practice for over twenty-five years. She's the author of "Marriage Is Not For Chickens", and hosts a weekly podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford, where she offers compassionate common-sense directions, ideas and goals toward the changes listeners want to make in healing. Dr. Margaret shares her journey on how she became one of the leading experts on embracing our shame and understanding our functioning. So get ready to learn how to be ok with not being ok on Episode 895. “Let me question why I do what I do.” - @doctor_margaret Some Questions I Ask: What happens if we hold on to our shame? (12:50) What would you say are the common things or the common theme that you see as challenges that people have? (18:15) What is mental illness and do we all have some type of it? (25:10) How do we recognize if we have depression if we’re a perfectionist? (36:20) What are three to five things we can do to arm ourselves against being susceptible to the things that hold us back? (42:00) How do we accept something about our past that we are not proud of? (49:00) What are the things that most of us learn from childhood that hold us back? (50:30) In This Episode You Will Learn: About Dr. Margaret’s journey through her own shame that has brought her to the work she does today. (10:00) What Dr, Margaret believes therapy can pinpoint in people and why it is integral to embracing vulnerability. (25:00) What it means to be a perfectionist and how it coincides with being “great.” (29:40) The complexity of the human condition on what we might require to start our healing process. (41:00) How to find your sense of well-being and why it is important to value our uniqueness. (45:00) The power of modeling healthy habits for our children. (57:00) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes, and more at http:www.lewishowes.com/895 and follow at instagram.com/lewishowes