How to Keep the SPARK ALIVE in Long-Term Partnerships | Esther Perel EP 670

"All in all, you know, committed sex is premeditated sex. It's not just gonna happen because whatever is gonna just happen already has. So you're gonna make it happen because you say, we matter, we're important." - Esther Perel In this captivating episode, renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert Esther Perel delves into the complex dynamics of desire and love in long-term relationships. With her signature blend of insight and candor, Perel challenges conventional wisdom about maintaining passion, arguing that confidence and independence are key to sustaining attraction. She explores the delicate balance between love's need for caretaking and desire's need for mystery and risk, offering practical advice for couples seeking to reignite their spark. Perel doesn't shy away from addressing the effort required to maintain a vibrant relationship. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity, creativity, and intentionality in romantic partnerships, drawing parallels between successful businesses and thriving relationships. Her advice ranges from simple daily practices of gratitude to more daring suggestions for breaking routines and injecting novelty into relationships. Throughout the conversation, Perel's wisdom serves as a wake-up call for those who have let their relationships languish, inspiring listeners to approach their partnerships with the same energy and innovation they bring to their professional lives.