Episode 543: How Aftercare Makes Sex Better

What happens after an intense sexual experience can be just as important as what happens during it. In the kink world, this is where “aftercare” comes in. But aftercare is about much more than cuddling, and it isn’t just for submissive partners. In this episode, we’ll explore what good aftercare looks like, how it can make kink even hotter, and how everyone can benefit from it whether they're kinky or not.

I am joined once again by Midori, an internationally recognized sexologist, kink educator, and author with over 30 years of experience in the field. She is the founder of Rope Dojo, and the author of The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, which was the first English-language book on Shibari. She is also author of Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink.

Some of the specific topics we cover include:

• Why is aftercare important in kink?
• What does aftercare look like in practice?
• How can you identify your own and your partner’s aftercare needs?
• How might aftercare differ for dominant and submissive partners?

You can visit Midori's Linktree to check out everything she's working on.

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