Episode 538: How To Get Out Of Your Head During Sex
Your brain really is your biggest sex organ. And if you want to have more (and better) sex, getting into the right headspace can make all the difference. The problem is that many of us have a hard time getting there. So how can we quiet the mental noise and become more present during sex? In this episode, we’re revisiting a classic episode from the archives on how changing your mindset can change your sex life for the better.
My guest is Dr. Kelly Casperson, a urologist, sex educator, author, and podcaster whose mission is empowering women to live their best love lives. She combines education, humor, and candor in her podcast. Kelly is also author of the books You Are Not Broken and The Menopause Moment: Mindset, Hormones, and Science for Optimal Longevity.
Some of the specific topics we cover include:
- Why mindset matters so much when it comes to sex.
- Where to start if you want to change your sexual mindset.
- How your motivations for having sex can shape the experience.
- Why there’s no better time to start making changes than now.
- How to identify your sexual “accelerators” and “brakes.”
You can check out Kelly's website to learn more about her work.
Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.
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