Episode 522: What People’s Sex Diaries Reveal About Modern Intimacy

Most of us only get small glimpses into other people’s sex lives, which can make our own experiences feel more unusual than they really are. But what happens when you spend years hearing the unfiltered truth about people’s desires, insecurities, relationships, and intimate experiences? In this episode, we explore what those stories reveal about modern sex and relationships.

My guest is Alyssa Shelasky. Her popular New York Magazine column, Sex Diaries, is widely considered a cultural phenomenon and was developed into an HBO docuseries with Shelasky producing and starring. She is the author of Apron Anxiety, This Might Be Too Personal, and the new book Sex Diaries: Real Life Stories of Non-Monogamy and Polyamory.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• Why are people sometimes more comfortable sharing their deepest sexual secrets with a stranger than with a partner?
• What do people’s sex stories reveal about the roles sex plays beyond physical pleasure?
• How have people’s desires, relationships, and intimate lives changed over the years?
• What has collecting countless intimate stories taught Alyssa about modern intimacy?

Check out Alyssa's website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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