Episode Ep 1205 October 14, 2026 1 hr 0 min

Adam Grant Says You're Doing Relationships Wrong

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Why it's OK to go to bed angry, be awkward, and not like your coworkers. Plus, the three kinds of friends you need and the one-line script that makes hard feedback land.

Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist at the Wharton School, where he has been the top-rated professor for seven straight years. His new book is Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World.

Adam's books have sold millions of copies, he's one of TED's most popular speakers, and his podcast Re:Thinking has over 100 million downloads. He's been recognized as the world's second-most influential management thinker and one of Fortune's 40 Under 40.

In this episode we talk about:

The four kinds of relationships, and which ones most people are missing
How to stop replaying awkward conversations in your head
Why men struggle to make friends
Turning a pal into a companion, including the haunted house trick
How to give feedback without putting people on the defensive
Why "agree to disagree" keeps relationships from handling friction
Why it's OK to go to bed angry
Why great teams don't require liking your coworkers or daily office time

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