One more argument. One more struggle. They sat on my couch, facing each other down as opponents in some contest to... win... well, to be honest, I don't know what they were trying to win. Because they were not winning at marriage! I stopped them, looked at them and said, "You do know you are on the same team..." and they stared blankly at me, so I continued, "... right??" They certainly were not working like a team. They were acting like enemies, in competition with each other. They were struggling to win. But either one "winning" would be a "lose" for the marriage. Too many people miss this one essential -- crucial -- fact about marriage... you both are on the same team. You are working toward a common goal (or should be). The task is not winning as an individual, but as a team, as a couple, as a family. This is the fundamental point of being what I call a "WE." WE are in this together; WE stand side-by-side; WE have each other's back; WE are a team! Same side, same direction (or should be). Listen to this episode for how to get on the same team! RELATED RESOURCES: Connecting Being A WE Conflict Save The Marriage System
