Pain Is Not From Loss

I Grieved for 20 Years… Until I Learned This

We are delighted to welcome back Gen Gomlam in this powerful episode. 

How do you transform the pain of loss into something life-enhancing? In this conversation, Gen Gomlam – a Buddhist nun and former hospice nurse – shares her deeply personal journey through grief, from the loss of her brother to the healing of her relationship with her father.

Drawing on Buddha's teachings on the mind, she explores how attachment keeps us locked in pain, why grief isn't the badge of love we think it is, and how real happiness can only be found within.

Whether you're navigating loss right now or simply want to understand your mind better, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:24 Early Experiences With Loss

04:11 Pain Comes From Our Reaction

06:41 Understanding Attachment

11:27 Prolonged Grief Is Attachment

19:07 Love Doesn't Die When They Die

20:36 Healing With Her Father

27:02 Tara's Mantra and the Funeral

31:03 Looking for Love vs. Loving Others

34:00 Therapy, Dharma and Lasting Change

Book References

How to Understand the Mind  by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso

Gen Kelsang Gomlam is a senior teacher within the New Kadampa Tradition, an international Buddhist tradition with over a thousand meditation centers worldwide.

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