Is feeling safe, heard, and understood enough for lasting love? In this Love U Podcast, I share two powerful coaching stories that reveal why a “good on paper” relationship isn’t always the right relationship. Learn the difference between healthy pacing and unhealthy pressure, and why chemistry still matters when building a life together. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re settling or simply being smart, this episode will help you find clarity and trust your heart. Tune in now to get the relationship you truly deserve. What You’ll Hear: Evan shares why feeling safe, heard, and understood is essential but not sufficient for a successful relationship. Story of a client who found an amazing relationship after a decade of not dating but is now pushing her boyfriend to accelerate marriage and family plans, risking the relationship. The importance of allowing men to choose commitment on their own timeline rather than applying pressure. The crucial distinction between being empowered and being effective in dating. Hard truth: Men (and people in general) resist being told what to do, and forcing outcomes in relationships often backfires. Story of another client engaged to a good man but struggling with low attraction and fun levels, leading to doubts about the relationship’s long-term potential. Evan’s simple evaluation tool: Rate your relationship on comfort, fun, and attraction; ideally, you want a 10 in comfort and at least a 7 in fun and attraction. The danger of settling for a relationship that feels like a “B-minus” when you deserve an “A.” Personal story about Evan’s mother settling for a “nice guy” after Evan’s father passed away and how that choice ultimately left her unfulfilled. The nuanced balance: You need chemistry and a good person—you can’t thrive with just one or the other. Powerful reminder that millions of quality men exist; you don’t have to settle out of fear. Encouragement to trust your feelings and not override red flags for the sake of convenience or fear of starting over. Invitation to attend the next Extraordinary Love Series on “The Power of Feminine Energy” to inspire men to pursue you. Full Episode Transcript: Today’s topic excites me so very much that I’m going to tell you at the top of the episode, before I say all the other stuff that I normally say, to stick around for the rest of this episode. I’m telling two great stories today that you’re going to want to hear that are going to impact the way you look at dating and relationships. So please, for your sake, not mine, stick around to the end of this episode. My name is Evan Marc Katz. This is the LoveU Podcast, a place where you can learn everything there is to know about dating relationships, sex, and men from a man’s point of view and find a relationship that makes you feel safe, heard, and understood. And that is the topic of today’s conversation, is whether safe, heard, and understood is enough. And you might be surprised to hear me say that it is not enough. And I’m going to explain to you why before we dive in. I want to remind you to register for the next installment of my Extraordinary Love Series. I’ll be doing a Zoom call with a live Q&A on a very specific topic. This month’s topic is the power of feminine energy. How to inspire a man to pursue you. We had over 360 people registered last month. This month will be even bigger. Go to www.extraordinaryloveseries.com Put in your name and email address and I will see you there and answer all your questions about feminine energy. Who better to talk about feminine energy than a man mansplaining feminine energy to you. I tease myself. So today’s conversation comes off of two client calls that I did in the past week. And normally I work with people for six months minimum. Nobody wants to sign up for six months. Everybody wants the quick fix. Could I do one call? Generally, it’s like saying could I do one personal training session? I want to get healthy and turn my whole life around but I want to do one personal training session. So I generally only work with people who are committed to working with me for sometimes three but usually six months to a year. This week I took a conversation with an old client and I took on a conversation with someone new just for a one-off. The first one I want to talk about is a client of mine who I worked with in probably end of the pandemic and she hadn’t dated for 10 years and she’s lovely. She’s attractive and blonde and bright and very marriage and family oriented and it was a joy to work with her. And from our work together this woman who didn’t have a relationship for 10 years has an amazing relationship with a guy right now where she feels safe heard and understood and she and he both want to get married and start a family. The issue is that she is 39 and she’s starting to feel the pressure. She wants to ki
