Why You Keep Yelling at Your Kids (Even When You Don’t Want To)

You are not an angry person. You love your kids more than anything. And you keep yelling anyway — and then standing there afterward wondering who that was and why you cannot seem to stop. That pattern is not a parenting failure. It is a nervous system pattern — often one that was modeled for you long before you had children of your own. Dr. Melanie Gray is a registered nurse and PhD who works specifically at the intersection of trauma-informed parenting and stress regulation — and what she shares about why triggers feel so much bigger than the moment, how dysregulation passes silently from parent to child through behavior, and the STOP IT framework that helps you catch yourself before you explode will give you the most practical and compassionate tools for changing a pattern you have probably been carrying your whole life. The repair matters as much as the rupture. This episode teaches you both. You’ll learn 👇 🧠 Why triggers feel bigger than the moment (trauma + modeling) 🚦 How to notice dysregulation before you explode 🛑 The STOP IT framework for emotion management 🤝 Why apology + repair builds emotionally safe kids ⏰ How protecting family time reduces conflict (love = T-I-M-E) Connect with Susan Landers 🔗 Explore more resources + insights on work-life balance: https://susanlandersmd.com/ 📚 Follow Dr. Susan Landers, MD for newborn care + parenting guidance: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-landersmd/ 📖 Get Dr. Landers’ book So Many Babies (career + motherhood + resilience): https://susanlandersmd.com/book/ 👏 Subscribe to her Substack newsletter (2,000+ subscribers in one month): https://susanlandersmd819.substack.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices