You’re Praising Your Child — But Are You Praising the Right Thing? Matthew and Audra Karam on What the Research Actually Shows

Most parents praise their kids constantly — and most of them are accidentally doing it in a way that builds a fixed mindset instead of a resilient one. A landmark Stanford University study found that children praised for their performance — their grades, their talent, their results — develop a fear of failure and become less willing to take on challenges. Children praised for their effort, on the other hand, build resilience, embrace difficulty, and develop the growth mindset that predicts long-term success far better than natural ability ever does. Matthew and Audra Karam join Stacey Chillemi to break down exactly what that distinction looks like in real parenting moments — the specific language that builds emotional resilience versus the language that quietly undermines it, how positive reinforcement and strength-based communication change a child’s relationship to struggle, and why the way you respond to your child’s effort today is shaping how they will handle failure as an adult. What they share about the role parents play as a child’s first and most important teacher — and how small shifts in the words you choose can have an outsized impact on who your child becomes — will make you think twice the next time you open your mouth to say “good job.” The praise is not the problem. This episode is about making it work. Website:  LEARNINGS: What did a study at Stanford University focus on regarding children and praise? The study examined how praising children for effort versus performance affects their outcomes over time. What were the two methods of praising children discussed in the podcast? The two methods were praising for performance and praising for effort. What did the study reveal about praising children for effort? The study showed that praising children for effort led to better outcomes and built resilience in children. What is the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset? Praising for performance leads to a fixed mindset while praising for effort helps develop a growth mindset. How can parents help build a solid emotional bank account for their children? Parents can build a strong emotional bank account by praising their children for their efforts, encouraging them to ask for help, and using positive reinforcement.  Sponsored By: Happy Wellness Expo - Over 100 National and Local Exhibitors Top Quality Products and Services For Your Health and Well-Being! Saturday, March 23rd, 2024 - 10 AM - 7 PM Website: Call: 973-420-2333 Become a supporter of this podcast: . Follow The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi for weekly episodes on mindset, wellness, spirituality, and business growth—without burnout. Newsletter & resources: https://substack.com/@staceychillemi Watch & connect: • • Be a... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices