The Life That Looks Perfect From the Outside Feels Empty Because It Was Never Actually Yours — Here’s What Nelanthini Rajesan Says to Do About That

People pleasing rarely announces itself. It looks like the good degree, the good job, the good relationship — and a private sense that none of it is actually yours. That emptiness is not ingratitude. It is what happens after years of handing your preferences to whoever was in the room, building a life that fits everyone else’s idea of what your life should look like while your own sense of self quietly disappears. Nelanthini Rajesan is a coach and speaker who rebuilt her own identity after her own life stopped fitting, and she joins Stacey Chillemi to walk through what it actually takes to hear your own voice again after years of drowning it out. What she shares about how to recognize the difference between a life you chose and a life you constructed to manage other people’s responses to you, the specific work of reclaiming the preferences and values that people pleasing taught you to suppress, and what the path back to a life that genuinely fits looks like in practice will give you the most personally honest and immediately activating people pleasing recovery conversation you have encountered. The question is not whether you have been people pleasing. The question is whose life you want to start living instead. This episode helps you find the answer. ────────────────────────────────────────── CONNECT WITH NELANTHINI RAJESAN 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nel.rajesan/ 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nelanthini-rajesan/ ────────────────────────────────────────── Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices