In this transformative episode of Shame(less) , host Ken Freire sits down with Drew Boa, founder of the Husband Material Academy and Podcast, to discuss the connection between sexual fantasies, childhood wounds, and addiction recovery. Drew shares his personal journey of breaking free from porn addiction, explains the importance of understanding triggers and fantasies, and offers practical advice for healing the inner child. Together, Ken and Drew unpack the power of vulnerability, self-compassion, and spiritual growth to help men overcome shame and live purposefully. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: Drew’s personal story of overcoming porn addiction and discovering the deeper meaning behind his fantasies. How sexual triggers and fantasies are often connected to unresolved childhood wounds. Why self-compassion is more effective than the traditional “military mindset” of battling addiction. Practical steps for connecting with your inner child and reframing triggers as opportunities for healing. The difference between arousal and desire and how understanding this distinction fosters freedom. How opening up to others and being fully known can break the power of shame. Important Links and Resources Mentioned: Husband Material Academy: Learn more about Drew’s program for men seeking sexual and emotional healing at HusbandMaterial.com . Porn Free Men’s Conference: Join Drew for a free live event on January 10–11, 2025. Details and registration available at thepornfreeman.com Jay Stringer’s Book “Unwanted”: A resource mentioned by Drew that explores the deeper meaning behind sexual fantasies and how to heal from unwanted behaviors. Shame(less) Podcast Website: BeShameless.org Quotes to Remember: “Heal the boy to free the man.” – Drew Boa “Arousal is what your body craves; desire is what your heart truly longs for.” – Drew Boa “Any part of yourself that you hate will hide and retaliate.” – Drew Boa “Porn is a pacifier. One day, you’ll drop it because you’ve outgrown it.” – Drew Boa Action Steps for Listeners: Reflect on your own triggers and consider what they might reveal about deeper unmet needs or wounds. Find a safe person or group to share your struggles and begin the journey of being fully known. Visit HusbandMaterial.com to learn about Drew’s resources and join the free Porn Free Men’s Conference in January 2025. Start practicing self-compassion by acknowledging your feelings and being present with your inner child. Connect with Us: Drew Boa: Visit HusbandMaterial.com or follow him on social media. Ken Freire: Reach out through BeShameless.org for follow-up questions or support or Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/kenfreire
