If you’ve been following this series on pain with intimacy, you now understand:
✔️ What might be causing your pain ✔️ How mental load and nervous system stress impact arousal ✔️ Why pushing through makes things worse ✔️ Practical rehab strategies to reduce tension
Now let’s talk about something we don’t normalize enough:
Supportive tools.
Because using tools does not mean you’re broken. It means you’re intentional.
In this final episode of the series, we’re discussing the different tools and toys that can reduce pain, improve blood flow, calm guarding, and help you rebuild positive experiences in your body — safely and confidently.
In This Episode, We Cover:
Why tools can help retrain pain pathways
The connection between blood flow, arousal, and pelvic floor relaxation
How graded exposure reduces guarding
Why friction (not failure) is often the problem
The role of pleasure in nervous system regulation
If pain continues, worsens, or feels deeply triggering, it’s time to see a pelvic floor PT.
The Bigger Reframe
Tools are not a crutch. They are bridges.
Bridges between pain and safety. Between guarding and openness. Between survival and pleasure.
Pleasure is not indulgent. It is nervous system medicine.
Want Structured Guidance?
Inside the Pelvic Floor, Core & More App, there is a FREE Masterclass: From Pain to Pleasure that you can access inside the app here: https://pelvic-floor-core-more.passion.io/
Or if you want more guidance join my 12 wk RESTORE program, where we combine:
Breathwork
Nervous system regulation
Mobility and downtraining
Core and pelvic floor coordination
Progressive strengthening
So you’re not guessing which tools to use — or when. (More on what this is and how to join below)
And if your pain is complex, trauma-related, or persistent, 1:1 pelvic floor PT may be your best next step.
You don’t have to navigate this alone.
This wraps our Pain with Intimacy series — but healing doesn’t end here.
Your body is not broken. It is layered. And layered healing is possible.
~ XO Dr. Des 💛
Tools/Toys Mentioned in this episode:
Lubricants:
water based: https://a.co/d/0aQmddMG
silicone based: https://a.co/d/0cCFnzCQ
Pelvic Floor Dilators and Wands: http://intimaterose.com/DESIREE2
Ohnut and Kiwi (vibration/massage tool combo) and other great products: https://thepelvicpeople.com/collections/all-products
🌀 Ready to feel stronger, more confident, and in tune with what it needs?
If you’re done guessing and googling… If you’re ready to stop modifying your workouts out of fear… If you’re ready to move, lift, run, and LIVE without leaking, pain, or pressure...
Then it’s time for RESTORE — my 12-week signature pelvic floor & core rehab program Evidence-based. Nervous system-informed. Holistically healing.
Inside RESTORE you’ll get: ✔️ 12 weeks of progressive breathwork, mobility & strength ✔️ 5- and 20-minute workouts to fit your life ✔️ Deep pelvic floor education (with zero fluff) ✔️ Real-life tools to reduce pain, improve leaks, and feel like YOU again ✔️ Access to our private community and support
Inside RESTORE, we cover:
Breathwork + pelvic floor connection
Mobility + posture
Nervous system regulation
Core control + strength building
Real-life application to everyday movement
And how to stop leaking, rushing to the bathroom, or feeling disconnected from your core
You’ll walk away from RESTORE with clarity, confidence, and a body you trust again.
JOIN RESTORE NOW FOR INSTANT ACCESS TO LESSONS AND EXERCISES!!
https://pelvic-floor-core-more.passion.io/checkout/86181d29-9811-4a33-80df-a82de21fa8fe
Or
💎 Learn More About RESTORE below, my 12-week program that walks you step by step through pelvic floor and core healing — so you can stop leaking, reduce prolapse symptoms, and feel strong again.
https://balancedmomtality.com/restore
💖 Or Want Personalized 1:1 Coaching and Support?
Book a virtual or in-person women’s health coaching/pelvic floor physical therapy s
