Should I Marry a Murderer? | The Fiancée Who Built the Case

Shane's pick this time. The challenge is always the same: grab a documentary off a streaming service and let the gang talk the whole thing through. Shane went with Should I Marry a Murderer? on Netflix, and it might be the most unsettling one yet, because the story is not really about the killer. It is about the woman who got engaged to him first.

The gang follows Caroline Muirhead, a Glasgow pathologist who matched with Highland gamekeeper Sandy McKellar on Tinder in October 2020. He proposed within months. Then, during a visit to the estate where he worked, he told her something that changed everything: three years earlier, he and his twin brother Robert had struck and killed a cyclist named Tony Parsons on a remote Highland road, and buried him on the property rather than call for help.

What Caroline did next is the whole show. She did not go straight to police. She stayed engaged to a man who had just confessed to burying a body, secretly recorded him for more detail, and left a marker near the burial sitefor investigators, all before formally reporting him about a month later. Shane, Kim, and Josh dig into whether that is bravery, self-preservation, or some tangle of both, and what nearly four years of not knowing did to Tony Parsons's own family while his killers kept working a few miles down the road.

They also get into the detail that might be the hardest part of the whole case: by the best-corroborated accounts, Parsons was still alive after the crash. The brothers left, came back in a different vehicle, and still never called for help. A charge that started as murder ended as culpable homicide, and the two men who did this got a combined seventeen years.

Along the way the gang wrestles with the bigger, uncomfortable question the documentary itself raises. It is billed as the first version of this story told from Caroline's point of view, and some UK critics have already said that framing buries Tony Parsons a second time. Shane, Kim, and Josh do not let him disappear from this conversation the way he nearly disappears from the film.

Pull up a chair in the bunker. No ghosts this week, just a fiancée who became the whole case against the man she almost married, and a conversation about who these stories are actually supposed to be for.

What you'll hear in this episode:

How Caroline Muirhead and Sandy McKellar met, and how fast he proposed

The month she spent secretly building a case against her own fiancé

Why the crash itself might not be what actually killed Tony Parsons

The seventeen year sentence, and the question of whose story this documentary really tells

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