The person who offends us controls us - Why do we let them

The person who offends us controls you - Why do we let them? If a person wants to offend, hurt us, upset us or make us angry- and we are, who has won, who is controlling us? Can we choose to grow and get stronger from any person trying to offend us? If a person wants to offend us, does that reveal who they are and now we can choose to be thankful for knowing who they are really are? www.maxfitnesscollege.com