It's been a few months since my father died and my friends are sort of telling me how to grieve, like I should get out of the house more and help my mom clear out the closet but I feel depleted. Are they right?

People love to tell you the right way to do things and so many would rather be right than kind. There is no manual for the proper way to grieve though plenty of books have been written about it. The death of someone you love breaks you wide open and it seems like people who haven't experienced this are the first ones to tell you exactly how you should handle it.