There have been times in the 37 years of our marriage when one or both of us needed to work a significant amount of extra time to meet a deadline to keep our jobs . The issue comes when that short term becomes all the time . Jim and I started an insurance agency from scratch . We knew that for the first three years, Jim would need to work three nights a week and 4 1/2 days a week to grow the agency's sustainability . We made a point to ensure that we always had a date night and never worked weekends . We agreed together that the investment of time was necessary . But it had a deadline . If your job never stops asking for more and is hurting your family, it may be time to start looking for a new job.