Ep. 109 Pleasure, Shadow Work & Sex Magick with Tenae Stewart of Lupine Hollow

Welcome back to The Emily the Mystic Show! Today’s episode is spicy, juicy, and packed with priestess-level truth. Emily is joined by Tenae Stewart of Lupine Hollow, a practicing cottage witch, certified astrologer, spiritual coach, and author of three books on magick, astrology, plants, and self-care.

In this conversation, Emily and Tenae go deep into pleasure as a spiritual practice, the shadows that surface when women prioritize desire, and why pleasure is the missing key in so much “healing” work. Tenae also shares her journey through loss, identity shifts, bisexual awakening, polyamory, and how her relationship with her body and sexuality evolved through chronic illness and transformation. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body, reclaim pleasure without shame, and explore sex magic in a grounded way, this one is for you.

🔥 In this episode, we talk about:

• Tenae’s spiritual journey and how Lupine Hollow was born after losing her home in a wildfire
• What it was like to start sharing “pleasure work” publicly and how her community responded
• Coming out as bi later in life and how that intertwined with her polyamory journey
• Body neutrality as a powerful practice, especially with chronic illness and body changes
• The 3 layers of pleasure: comfort, sensuality, and sexuality
• Why “I don’t have anything to complain about” is not the standard for pleasure
• Shadow work + pleasure and why shadow work without pleasure can keep you stuck
• Celibacy discourse in the spiritual space and how purity culture sneaks back in
• Energetic hygiene + boundaries with partners (including crystal support + intention-setting)
• Sex magic tips for solo practice and partnered dynamics
• Working with the cycles: moon phases, seasons, and astrology as a foundation for mystical living

✨ Key takeaways:

• Pleasure isn’t extra. It’s foundational, especially for healing and embodiment.
• Neutrality with your body can be more accessible (and more honest) than forced positivity.
• Pleasure can be a doorway back into safety, presence, and self-trust.
• Your sexuality doesn’t need to be justified as “spiritual” to be worthy of attention.
• Working with cycles (moon, seasons, stars) keeps your practice grounded and real.

💫 Tenae’s favorite sex magic practices:

• Choose a word or short phrase (clarity, love, abundance, courage) and repeat it as you build energy toward orgasm
• Visualize yourself surrounded by a color aligned with what you’re calling in (pink for love, green for abundance, gold for sovereignty)
• Let pleasure be a practice of receiving, not just doing

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Guest bio:
Tenae Stewart of Lupine Hollow is a practicing cottage witch, a certified astrologer, and a spiritual coach, as well as the author of three books on magick, astrology, plants, and self-care. She is on a mission to empower modern witches to defy convention so they can live their most magickal lives all day, every day.

Connect with Tenae:
Tenae’s Website: https://www.lupinehollow.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lupinehollow
The Lover Within Pleasure Summit: https://www.lupinehollow.com/summits

Work with Emily + Links
Divine Trust Manifestation Mentorship (starts April 2): https://www.emilythemystic.com/divinetrust
Akashic Records Certification: https://www.emilythemystic.com/akashic-records-training
Kairos 1 on 1 Mentorship: https://www.emilythemystic.com/kairos
Dolcezza Retreat (Amalfi Coast Italy): https://liatheastrologer.com/dolcezza-self-love-embodiment-retreat
Divinity Tablets Healing: https://www.emilythemystic.com/divinitytablets