Build Emotional Intimacy Without Losing Yourself with Adam Lane Smith
Can you be successful in every area of your life and still struggle to feel truly loved in your relationships? In this episode, I sit down with attachment specialist Adam Lane Smith to talk about how some high-achieving women learn to hide their needs, try to solve everything alone, and struggle to let others get close. Adam shares how to have the conversations you've been avoiding, express your needs without feeling guilty, and create more emotional safety with the people you love. He also breaks down the 3-date method for getting clear on compatibility before committing to someone. Tune in to learn how to start building relationships where you can feel seen, safe, and accepted. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Launch your business before Black Friday, go to http://shopify.com/happy to start your free trial. Monarch Money - Get your first year of Monarch Core for half off at http://Monarch.com with code EYH. Northwest Registered Agent - Visit http://northwestregisteredagent.com/EarnFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Fabric - Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to help protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at http://meetfabric.com/EARN. Meetfabric.com/EARN. Quince - Find the fall pieces you’ll reach for most at Quince. Get free shipping on your order and 365-day returns and when Quince asked how you heard about them, let them know it was here on Earn Your Happy. Gloss Genius - Run a business that takes appointments? Use code HAPPY at https://glossgenius.com/earnyourhappy for 50% off your first two months of a premium plan. Faire - Sign up today and get 50% off your first wholesale order, up to $100 at http://faire.com/happy50. Terms may apply. Life at the Speed of Play - Go to http://getmarksbook.com/earn to get two copies for the price of one—one for you and one for a friend. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Why are high-achieving women often hard to love? 04:45 What led you to make attachment and relationships your life's work? 07:30 Why being successful at work doesn't always translate to intimacy at home. 09:30 How childhood experiences can teach you to solve problems alone. 12:00 How to ask your partner for what helps you feel loved and safe. 15:15 Adam's approach to managing fear before opening up to your partner. 21:45 How to choose the right time and prepare for an important relationship conversation. 24:00 The conversation formula that helps your partner understand what you need. 27:45 How sharing your needs and preferences can build intimacy. 29:45 Rebuilding emotional safety and connection in a relationship. 35:00 Practicing vulnerability even when rejection feels possible. 38:30 How to be clear about what you want in a relationship. 41:00 What to look for beyond chemistry when getting to know someone. 42:15 Can you talk about the hard things before building a future together? 48:00 Learning to hear your partner's feedback without immediately trying to fix things. 51:00 What a difficult conversation can teach you about trust and curiosity. 54:00 How to ask trusted people to help you see your blind spots. 58:45 The attachment pattern Adam identifies in some high-achieving women. 01:00:00 Ways to practice openness and connection in everyday life. RESOURCES Explore Adam Lane Smith’s attachment resources and coaching support HERE! Learn how to turn podcast guesting into massive sales, save your spot for the free live training HERE! Make your own Million Dollar Media Kit HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow Chris: @chriswharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Adam: @attachmentadam