Based Camp: Is the Hot Crazy Matrix Real?

In today's deep dive, Malcolm and Simone discuss the complex interplay between physical attractiveness and perceived emotional stability. Drawing upon personal experiences and exploring social constructs, they debunk the notorious "hot-crazy" graph and redefine the spectrum as "hot-evil." The conversation expands on how attractiveness and dating dynamics influence people's emotional well-being and self-perception, and how this subsequently impacts their mental health.

As a fascinating twist, Malcolm and Simone reveal their transformation from what they call their "ugly duckling" phase to their current attractiveness, and how this change has influenced their perspective on body image issues. This intriguing discussion delves into the impact of societal pressures and the unrealistic beauty standards set by online spaces. Stay tuned to see how this conversation challenges conventional wisdom about attractiveness and its influence on personality traits.

Transcript:

Simone: [00:00:00] it, is like having everything on a 50% discount.

Simone: Like just not realizing the real price of things, but on a social spectrum, right? So

Malcolm: like is it a little worse than that? So if you're having everyone come fuss over you, every time you cry, every time you lose emotional control in some way, you are being subconsciously emotionally rewarded for losing emotional control for you, losing your composure.

Simone: Oh, wow. So, so it's not just that they're given privileged treatment the whole time, it's also that they're, encouraged to engage in very toxic emotional loops that ultimately harms their emotional wellbeing and mental health.

Simone: Yeah. So it's, wait, so the spectrum isn't hot? Crazy. It's hot evil, yeah. For

Malcolm: guys it's hot, evil if they're still single

Malcolm: And so this is why I think the guys that keep running through, people that stay on these apps that most women are actually exposed to that don't end up settling down. Mm-hmm. Why they ate. That's almost serving for evil guys because you begin to realize after a while is you've noticed.

Malcolm: [00:01:00] Some people who you've hurt.

Malcolm: Normal humans don't feel good when they hurt other people. Even if it was unintentionally,

Malcolm: and so men who do have that emotion, take themselves off the market

Would you like to know more?

Simone: Malcolm. Does being hot make you crazy?

Malcolm: I, I think it just might, and I, I like this at the topic cuz a secret that people don't know about us. And I'm gonna post some picture of this proof because people will doubt this is that you and I were born. Ugly. We were born ugly. We were born ugly. We transformed.

Malcolm: We transformed. You say, you would've always found me cute. I, I look at some old pictures of you and I would've found you cute, but definitely we are dramatically more attractive now than we were 10

Simone: years ago.

Simone: No. Okay. Yeah. One, one. Let's say I, I was an ugly duckling that now I'm normal. I would say you are always pretty cute, but you look better now than you used to.

Simone: Look, you are way hotter now. I

Malcolm: actually think you're delusional about this cause we play this game. I think you are normal if [00:02:00] who you're comparing yourself to is like celebrities and people you watch online. You have to understand, and I think

Simone: this is, this is actually something we were discussing last night when we were watching a show and some, some female character came on who was supposed to be really hot.

Simone: And you were like, I don't get it. She's not hot at all. And I think the issue is that she didn't look 22 and just in like the past five years, basically everyone online started looking 22, I think because of filters. That's an issue. And the problem is, yeah, we stopped, we see someone. Who's aged well, who looks good, but because they don't look 22, we're like, oh, Cris keeper.

Simone: Like, what's wrong with, yeah.

Malcolm: So I actually think that a lot of our viewers would think that you look normal as well, because I, I, I will agree that was in my evoked set of women. Yeah. You know, you might be on the more normal category, but whenever we're walking around, so we play this game, I play this game.

Malcolm: Okay. Like if you're walking

Simone: around in a group of, of normal Americans, but also Americans have a serious health crisis right now,

Malcolm: Simone. When we're walking [00:03:00] around, I play this game. We're walking around out into the town, we're walking around in a mall, we're walking around on a cruise. I go, look around, is there anyone in this room that's as attractive as you are?

Malcolm: And she won't find anyone. And she'll be like, but that doesn't mean anything because we're what? Because the population sample we're comparing you to is Americans. Like, I think that you are forgetting how unattractive the average person is in this country now. And I think that, that this is a problem that a lot of our viewers have because we've had some viewers reach out to us about like their attractiveness and stuff, where when you are measuring yourself off of this cultural idea from what you see in online spaces, you can create a self-perception that you are much less attractive than you actually are when you compare yourself to the general population.

Malcolm: And so if. In our audience has body image issues. I think one of the best ways to deal with those body image issues is to compare yourself to large crowds. Oh. To like

Simone: go to a mall?

Malcolm: No, like if somebody thinks I'm not buff enough or I'm not skinny enough. Right. Go to a [00:04:00] mall and say, where am I percentage wise within this community? Mm. If you're in the top 20%, you don't have anything to worry about. And I think that that's a very useful way to reset your expectations in a world where we are seeing people online all the time.

Simone: Yeah. Within limitations, like I think

Malcolm: I.

Malcolm: You don't wanna admit it because you have body image issues and you don't wanna accept that you, that

Simone: you're actually, I can't identify as female without having body dysmorphia, Malcolm, otherwise I wouldn't be a woman. You have to understand, like, the way that we all relate to each other is we're like, oh, I hate my thighs.

Simone: And you know, someone else is like, I hate my face, I hate my chin, I hate my ear. Lobes are so fat. Anyway what we're here to talk about though, what. Hot crazy

Malcolm: graph, right? Yes. We are crazy, but we're not crazy because we're hot. This is a crazy cause we're crazy. First talk about the hot, crazy graph cuz this is a very interesting.

Simone: . So I think what I, I don't know where the meme came from, but certainly there are videos out there of like [00:05:00] people charting out a graph of hot and crazy where there's, you know, on one axis there's hot on the other axis, there's crazy. And basically there is a strong correlation.

Simone: The hotter you get, the crazier you get. And this is funny to people. It's amusing because it, it often holds true and. It's fun to discuss the dynamics behind that. So why wo