205 - How To Stop Judging Your Partner

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Your partner tells you how they handled something at work, and before they've finished the story, you've decided they got it wrong. You don't say it out loud. But they can feel it. In this episode, Alastair explains why judgemental thinking is so hard to switch off, and how to trade quiet criticism for something that actually brings you closer.

If you've ever finished your partner's story in your head, corrected them over something small, or dug in to prove you were right about something that barely mattered, you're not alone. Judging the people closest to us is far more common than most people realise. It also quietly erodes the trust and connection in a relationship.

In this episode, you'll learn three simple tools you can use the next time you catch yourself finding fault. You'll discover where judgemental thinking comes from. Through an ancient Buddhist story about a farmer and his horse, you'll see why things are rarely as good or bad as they seem in the moment, and why the "I'm right, you're wrong" approach always leads to the same place.

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