Gents, eating broccoli won’t get you blowjobs...

Some bad news for the single men out there: no woman will ever enthusiastically give you a blowjob because you…

* Have done 20 minutes of meditation every day this week or do Dual N-Back brain training to build mental muscles and be less at the mercy of your impulses and negative thoughts.

* Suffer through cold showers every morning just to get uncomfortable.

* Have been staying up late and waking up early for the last six months working on an Entrepreneurial project that will get you out of the rat race.

* Spend three hours weekly pushing heavy metal in the gym.

* Have been taking public speaking courses to improve your communication skills.

* Your eyes hurt from studying engineering textbooks all night so that you can get good grades in your next exam and the master’s degree that you need for a lucrative professional career.

* Just dropped $300 at the mall to upgrade your wardrobe.

* You’ve chosen to read a long dense non-fiction book about some meaningful subject instead of binging on mindless Netflix shows.

* Avoid the temptation to watch internet porn.

* Read countless Pubmed studies to try to figure out how to fix your health problems.

* Have spent months learning a new language.

* Eat your broccoli or spinach and say "No!" to all that tempting junk food.

No woman is going to say…

He’s just trying SO hard, I must have his dick in my mouth right now!

The point I’m making with comedic vulgarity is that women particularly and people, in general, do not care about your personal development efforts, they only care about your personal development results.

Thanks to my secret society infiltration model for “networking” I don’t hang out with a lot of chumps, the guys I’m friends with are doing meaningful things with their lives. We don’t sit around and shoot the breeze talking about sports, the news, or celebrity scandals, we talk business, we talk about where we’re traveling and we talk a lot about our personal development projects and efforts. Consistently, some sharp young man I know will be telling me about the meditation methods or fitness efforts he’s devoting time to and will then lament that his dating life is not going swimmingly — girls are flaking and wasting his time or he’s having a tough time meeting the kind of girls he’d actually like to date. It might seem that his personal development efforts are in vain and on the other hand, we’ve all known guys who were real pieces of shit, who couldn’t care less about personal development that got laid like crazy. They made extraordinarily little effort to be better men and women loved them for it!

You might be saying…

Well, you’re just talking about idiotic men fucking vapid sluts. The kind of quality women that I’m interested in wouldn’t kneel before cocky assholes and felate their inflated egos. They would appriciate a guy who is a decent person going places with their life.

Yes and no. There are good women out there in the world who are attracted to virtue. Here in the red pill sphere of the internet, we recognize that all women potentially have a dual mating strategy, they want a man who is an exciting, sexy stimulating lover but they also want a man who is a stable provider. By avoiding women who display some conspicuous red flags you can focus your seduction efforts on women who might appreciate you for what you might become in 5, 10, or 20 years as opposed to women who will spread their legs for you tonight because you’ve fed them the required dosage of vodka and cocky banter. But still, even the highest quality women don’t care that much about your personal development efforts, in fact, they may backfire.

Get dressed up and go someplace that you might imagine yourself meeting quality women — whatever that means to you, it could be church, it could be a high-end networking group, it could be the library of a medical college, it could be a meditation seminar, it could mean volunteering for a local charity — and tell whatever fine ladies you meet there all about all the fascinating (and challenging!) personal development projects that you pour your blood, sweat, and tears into. And guess what… They’re going to want to “network” with you (expect a LinkedIn connection request!) They will certainly be attracted to you but in a dry vertical sense, as opposed to a wet horizontal one, if you get my drift.

Does this make them bad people? No. All your rational and pragmatic personal development (and broccoli consumption) makes you in their eyes a very rational perspective platonic friend or maybe even a mentor who could help them advance their career. Women are also fundamentally risk-averse, they are keenly aware that dating and romance are risky endeavors that more often than not result in heartbreak, drama, and breakups. Talking about all your personal development makes you a downright intimidating romantic prospect. By stimulating her rational side you make it all too easy for her to categorize you as a guy who would make a great support friend, not the guy whose name she would moan in a moment of sexual ecstasy.

Storytime

There was this very attractive Thai woman in Denver that I once tried and failed to date who had her shit together. She owned a high-end beauty salon downtown, she lived in this luxury condo in a very fashionable neighborhood and she drove this beautiful white BMW. At the time, I also had my shit together. I lived in the same neighborhood in this gorgeous, panty-dropping high-rise condo.

I had a walk-in closet full of fly threads. I was in great shape thanks to my client’s gym two blocks away. I was an entrepreneur operating my own marketing firm. I had an active (sometimes overactive) social life. I could be found eating, drinking a living large in the stylish restaurants and bars in downtown Denver 3 to 4 nights a week. I had a freaking tan salon membership! I was about as attractive as a 26-year-old guy could be, we flirted and had some chemistry yet she was uninterested in dating me. Here’s why, her boyfriend was in jail! She was in an It’s complicated relationship with this guy who was some kind of criminal and had stolen $30,000 from her and she was just not so keen on dating me — certainly one of Denver’s most eligible bachelors. All that I had going for me made me a serious romantic prospect and she was in the process of ending an awful long-term relationship. If I was kind of a loser, I bet I would have slept with her or had some kind of transient fling.

You may be thinking…

Great, so personal development is a big waste of time! I should just be an intoxicated, entitled asshole and unto me, the universe will deliver pussy!

No. Personal development does make you a man that women and the world will succumb to. But, Rome was not built in a day, it takes time. And you want to let people discover how awesome you are, don’t tell them.

I’m now married

Being married has made me happier than anything else (even driving a brand-new Maserati!</