A trenchant critique of "Sex at Dawn" and faux-edgy non-monogamy

In this podcast interview, Christopher Ryan and Aubrey Marcus joke about being called cucks. This four-letter word that is so cavalierly thrown about on the internet has layers of depth and nuance.

I’ll explain why many men call them cucks and why it’s a deservedly derogatory term.

They are discussing a book that Christopher Ryan wrote, Sex at Dawn about how humans are naturally promiscuous and non-monogamous. It has a pretty obvious message humans are animals and we like to fuck. We naturally want to maximize hedonism, minimize effort, enjoy novelty and we tend to be promiscuous.

Aubrey, who is a successful entrepreneur, health guru, and internet celebrity has implemented the message of the book and became a cuck, literally — he encourages his long-term girlfriend/fiancée that he lives with to date and sleep around with other men. In numerous podcasts and articles h,e talks about the jealousy and mental anguish of letting his girlfriend fuck other guys - he emphasizes that this is not an easy lifestyle. He's a hardcore, professional biohacker with access to an amazing array of stress relief and mindfulness tools and technologies, and using all of them he manages to live with his jealousy.

Presumably, Aubrey also gets to date and sleep with other women — but on numerous podcasts of his that I've listened to he NEVER talks about all the hot sex and good times he's having outside of his relationship, he just whines (and sometimes jokes) about being jealous of his girlfriend sleeping around. I'm NOT hearing about the upsides of cuckoldry from Aubrey.

I suspect that Aubrey is getting the short end of this deal. His girlfriend is a fit, attractive, and somewhat internet-famous woman, I'm sure that her options for secondary relationships are boundless. To go on a hot date and get laid, all she has to do is say yes to one of the hundreds of proposals that I'm sure she receives weekly. But the dating marketplace is VERY different for men; to get a date men have to swipe their smartphones thousands of times or approach dozens of women on the street.

Also, I suspect that the women Aubrey is sleeping with on the side are a downgrade from his girlfriend both in looks and personality. If the other women he's hooking up with are really hot he'd probably be showing them off on Instagram the way Dan Bilzerian does. Sleeping with a man who is literally a cuck (and advertises it) is NOT the behavior of a true high-quality woman and certainly not a virtuous woman. I imagine that there are women who want to sleep with him because he's a good-looking guy and an internet celebrity BUT I can't imagine that any of them are decent people who would make a good partner.

If I knew that taking Aubrey's advice of opening up my relationship would result in my having a harem, like a Sultan, of sexy young women worshipping my cock I might do it BUT it sounds like it's just a frustrating pain in the ass!

Why we call them cucks…

Obviously, monogamy is not natural. But civilization is rising above our animal desires and impulses. Civilization was NOT built by men just trying to optimize their sexual hedonism. Go and read some historical biographies of great inventors, explorers, entrepreneurs, or statesmen. They lived these stoic lives of self-discipline and self-sacrifice devoted to a higher cause. They were not obsessed with finding weird or sadomasochistic ways to express their sexuality.

The exotic cultures that Chris writes about in his book that don't practice monogamy are all the same cultures that were scratching around in the mud while our monogamous Christian culture -Western civilization - was inventing the airplane and curing polio. They're sacrificing civilization on the altar of the utmost primacy of sexual hedonism — EVERYTHING is less important than making their dicks happy.

Sexual liberation

We have plenty of evidence that widespread sexual liberation is quite bad for society…

* The catastrophic levels of divorce.

* The tragedy of single motherhood that ruins the childhoods of so many children.

* The demographic decline of our countries.

* The feminism wrecking our countries politically.

* The vast number of attractive young women who jeopardize their futures and ruin their lives by entering the porn industry for the promise of easy cash and celebrity.

* The #metoo victim culture, false rape hysteria, and the real rapes enabled by our YOLO culture of irresponsibility and intoxication.

* The hordes of men going MGTOW, retreating away from women and society into the pixel-pleasure world of porn and video games.

Personal anecdote: Sexual liberation destroys a new family

A few years ago an old childhood friend of mine married his beautiful young Argentinian girlfriend with whom he had a son. They seemed very happy together and the marriage was a truly joyous merger of two families that got along famously. At their wedding, I remember thinking, this is the start of something great! To my surprise about 6 months later they announced that they were getting divorced. It turned out that my friend’s young wife got drunk one night and cheated on my friend. He was deeply ashamed and decided to divorce. Thus another single mother was created and the burgeoning friendship between the two families was blown up. My friend’s young son goes to daycare when he’s not being juggled between his parents. There are signs that he’s going to have a troubled childhood. This is what you get with sexual liberation folks; you brainwash people from the youngest age that they should just do whatever feels good to them in the moment. Countless songs and everything on TV repeat this message that sex is just a toy that exists for your enjoyment. The women are wonderful message gets repeated everywhere — convincing women that they don’t need to be virtuous or disciplined — they are perfect just the way they are. This cultural cauldron of individualism, feminism, and consumerism has made so many incapable of seeing beyond their own noses. My friend’s young wife had all the very best reasons to be a loyal wife and a decent mother YET she couldn’t even make it six fucking months into the marriage without cheating!

Would have she cheated if she was raised with a proper moral compass in a culture that practiced proper slut shaming and social ostracization? Doubt it!

If sexual liberation was just consenting adults in private