In this empowering episode of Her Unshakeable Confidence, Simone and Olivia Knego unpack one of the biggest influences on our confidence: the voice inside our head. They discuss the “What-If Whisperer”—the relentless inner critic that loves to say you’re not enough, you might fail, or everyone will judge you. Together, they reveal how much of our identity is shaped not by our abilities, but by the language we use about ourselves. From naming your inner critic “Sally,” to shifting from try to do, they share practical and relatable tools for taking back your power and speaking to yourself with respect. They also explore: Why authenticity shouldn’t feel like taking off tight jeans at the end of the day How to support others without shrinking your own success Why the way you speak about yourself teaches others how to treat you This episode is your invitation to rewrite the script playing in your mind—because when you change the words, you change the story. And the story you believe becomes the life you lead. ✅ Actionable Takeaways Name and externalize your inner critic to separate it from who you truly are Swap “I’ll try” for “I’ll do”—language builds belief Choose supportive self-talk: speak to yourself like a friend, not an enemy Don’t dim your light to fit others’ struggles—support without self-minimizing Set boundaries with that negative inner voice: you get to decide the narrative Teach self-respect early—kids learn confidence from how we model self-talk 📖 Chapters 00:00 – The What-If Whisperer: Our Inner Critic 03:20 – Performing vs. Living Authentically 08:44 – Shrinking Ourselves to Make Others Comfortable 12:58 – “I Failed Too!” The Tricky Art of Commiseration 18:45 – Words Matter: Language Shapes Confidence 24:05 – Treat Yourself Like Someone You Love 29:10 – Raising Kids With Self-Respect 30:41 – Final Encouragement: You Are Unshakeable 👉 💬 Connect with Us Don’t forget to subscribe to Her Unshakeable Confidence for more empowering stories and actionable insights. Leave us a review, share your favorite moments, and tag us on social media! ✨ Take our new QUIZ and discover your signature mix of courage, energy, and flavor. 🎁Subscribe to our exclusive email list and receive our downloadable, FREE GUIDE, Positive affirmations to Live Life Authentically Click HERE to get your copy! Pre-Order Simone’s New Book REAL Confidence A Simple Guide to Go from Unsure to Unshakeable 📖 Order Simone’s Book Amazon Link: https://a.co/d/5MwUmJh Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/55422846-the-extraordinary-unordinary-you Barnes&Noble: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-extraordinary-unordinary-you-simone-knego/1137661020 👉 Connect with Simone Knego: Instagram: @simoneknego Facebook: @speakersimoneknego LinkedIn: simoneknego Website: www.simoneknego.com Book a free call with Simone 👉 Connect with Olivia Knego: Instagram: @oliviaknego LinkedIn: oliviaknego Visit Our Etsy Shop: theunshakeablestudio ✨ Check out our inspirational mugs, shirts, and more at The Unshakeable Studio on Etsy! Empower your day with a dose of confidence. New designs drop regularly!
