If dating feels like a minefield of awkward moments, self-doubt, and uncertainty—you're not alone. But what if those moments of discomfort were actually the key to deeper connection and personal growth? In this episode, I sit down with Cat Cantrill, the Scottsdale Matchmaker, to talk about how she helps clients take ownership of their dating experiences, lean into curiosity, and navigate the process with more confidence and ease. Cat's approach isn't about playing games—it's about showing up as your most authentic self and learning to embrace the journey. This episode is the perfect follow-up to my guest spot on Cat's podcast, Dear Matchmaker —so start there, then come back for even more wisdom from Cat! You don't want to miss this conversation. 🎧💡 Just to note, there were a few internet glitches in our conversation that couldn't quite be edited out so I apologize in advance for any of those tiny disruptions! SHOW NOTES: Dear Matchmaker Podcast Episode MORE ABOUT CAT: Cat Cantrill is a renowned matchmaker and dating coach, leveraging her expertise in psychology and sociology to guide singles toward meaningful connections since 2015. As the founder of The Scottsdale Matchmaker, she offers bespoke matchmaking, dating coaching, and styling services, utilizing empathy and relationship science to refine clients' dating strategies. Her approach is practical and no-nonsense, helping individuals gain clarity on what they truly seek in a partner. Host of the top-ranked podcast, Dear Matchmaker, Cat has been featured on ABC, CBS, PBS, and has been recognized in major publications, including DatingAdvice.com as an industry leader and Fortune Magazine as an elite matchmaker. A native of Scottsdale, Arizona, she divides her time between Iowa and Arizona, balancing her professional endeavors with community involvement. Links: Website: www.scottsdalematchmaker.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/catcantrill Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/catcantrill/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@catcantrill MORE ABOUT ME: I'm a mental health therapist, speaker, author and educator who helps organizations bridge the gap between knowing and doing the things that foster well-being, resilience and success. With expertise in school counseling, trauma-informed practices, and social-emotional intelligence (SEI), I help teams address the root causes of issues such as burnout, communication breakdowns, and resistance to change—rather than just treating surface-level symptoms. My engaging, evidence-based approach equips audiences with the skills to navigate discomfort, build trust and create healthier, more adaptive workplaces. I'm also a "Resolutionist" with Empowered Workplace Dispute Resolution , where I leverage my trauma-informed expertise to guide difficult conversations with compassion and clarity. I create safe spaces for resolving conflicts, turning challenges into growth opportunities. Whether working with frontline workers, organizational teams or educational leaders, I help people feel seen, heard and valued—transforming disputes into deeper understanding. MORE WAYS TO CONNECT WITH ME: * Subscribe to my newsletter for exclusive content, the latest news and more! I post a few times a month so I won't be inundating your inbox * If you know (or are) a business owner, nonprofit leader, or team manager who's ready to invest in their people and create real, lasting change, connect us! Let's partner to build workplaces where well-being and success go hand in hand. My online membership space is an incredible and affordable value add that helps you get at the root of obstacles to success and overall wellness. * Book me for a workshop or speaking event! Email me at
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