" True listeners no longer have an inner need to make their presence known. They are free to receive, to welcome, to accept." ~ Henri Nouwen Why is it so hard to listen well to others? Why am I so pained when others don't listen to me? Can I become a better & more active listener? In this episode of This Whole Life , Pat and Kenna welcome guest Addy Diaz to explore the art of active listening. Delving into how active listening fosters deeper connections and empathy, Addy shares insights from her experience in clinical counseling and ministry. The discussion highlights the importance of being present and attentive to others' stories, avoiding common pitfalls like bringing conversations back to oneself or offering unsolicited advice. Addy discusses practical "Dos" and "Don'ts", such as eliminating distractions and reflecting feelings and posture, to enhance one's listening skills and connection to others. Through engaging anecdotes and relatable scenarios, this episode emphasizes the transformative power of truly hearing others and provides listeners with tools to become better listeners. Addy Diaz is a Masters Level Clinician seeking advanced licensure as a Licensed Practicing Clinical Counselor. Addy holds a Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from the University of Mary in Bismarck, ND. She received her undergraduate degree in Communications from Northern State University in Aberdeen, SD. Addy is passionate about integrating the truths of the Christian faith and the realities of mental health for a holistic understanding of the person. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with friends, brewing kombucha, gardening, and playing music. Episode 69 Show Notes Chapters: 0:00: Introduction and Highs & Hards 15:28: The transformative power of active listening 24:07: Embracing the levels of personhood 32:36: Listening communicates worth 40:36: Resisting the temptation to minimize 45:43: Advice & Criticism 53:34: Receiving, not educating 57:39: Challenge By Choice Reflection Questions: What is one specific thing that stuck with you from this conversation? On a scale from 1-10, how skilled are you at active listening? Have you become better or worse over time? When have you had an experience of being heard well and with love? What did that mean to you? What is hard about active listening in your relationships? What are the temptations or distractions? What is one way you will work to become a better listener? Send us a text. We can't respond directly, but we're excited to hear what's on your mind! Click here to register for the DBT group from Jan. 20 - March 24, 2026 (MN & WI residents only) Support the show Thank you for listening, and a very special thank you to our community of supporters! Visit us online at thiswholelifepodcast.com , and send us an email with your thoughts, questions, or ideas. Follow us on Instagram & Facebook Interested in more faith-filled mental health resources? Check out the Martin Center for Integration Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller . Used with permission.
