How Do I Deal with His Rage? [317]

In today’s episode, I answer a question about surviving a husband’s rage while still in the home and preparing to leave. I want to share insights on coping strategies, the importance of unhooking from an abuser’s words, and how to create a safety plan. If you're living in survival mode, this episode offers encouragement and practical steps to help you move toward freedom and healing. Key Takeaways: Fear is a natural response to an abusive environment. Trying to "toughen up" emotions to endure abuse is not the solution; rather, finding ways to escape is essential. Unhook from his words. An abuser’s insults and accusations are projections of their own delusions, not reflections of your worth. Abusers see their victims as LEGO characters. They create a false narrative about who you are and expect you to conform. Recognizing this can help you detach emotionally. Radical acceptance is necessary. Understand that an abusive partner does not want genuine connection—only control and transaction. Survival mode is not living. Every day you endure abuse is survival, but true healing comes from stepping into a life of freedom. You deserve a future beyond survival. Healing is possible, and there are communities and resources to help you move forward. Read the show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Need a resource to help you as you unhook? Check out my interview with the founder of the app, Aimee Says, and then try it out for yourself! Want a free chapter of my book, “Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage”? Sign up for my mailing list , and I’ll send a copy straight to your inbox.