Marriage is full of seasons—some where you’re both thriving, some where you’re both struggling, and the hardest ones, where one of you is drowning while the other is doing just fine. In this episode, Tera, Echo, and Phyllis get real about what it looks like to stay connected when your partner is in a tough place, how codependency sneaks in without us realizing it, and why we were never meant to carry everything for each other. They unpack the guilt, the resentment, and the loneliness that can show up in these seasons, and share the tools that helped them stop fixing, start seeing, and actually enjoy their marriage again. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min To download the Core Emotion Wheel: https://connectioncodes.co/wheel To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-course-online Book a coaching session with Dr. Glenn: https://connectioncodes.co/marriage-help (If links are not working, please copy and paste connectioncodes.co to your search bar and look through our site menu!) _________________________________________________________________ Connect with Echo Hill Vetter: Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter Echo’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter Chapters: 00:00:00 – The Part of Marriage No One Prepares You For 00:01:06 – Saying the Wrong Name, Every Time 00:02:04 – When Life Drains You and Your Spouse Doesn’t Get It 00:03:40 – The Worst Thing You Can Do When Your Partner is Struggling 00:07:03 – How We Accidentally Made Marriage Impossible 00:11:50 – Your Spouse is Not Your Village 00:24:18 – Codependency Feels Like Love—Until It’s Not 00:28:27 – The Silent Ways We Sabotage Ourselves 00:29:06 – The Cost of Ignoring Your Own Body 00:31:29 – The Difference Between Asking and Expecting 00:33:50 – Speak Now or Resent Later 00:35:42 – The Secret to Processing Without Over-Talking 00:38:34 – Breaking the Patterns That Keep You Stuck 00:49:15 – You Weren’t Meant to Do This Alone 00:52:12 – It’s Time to Stop Pretending Everything’s Fine
