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In this episode, I answer three powerful questions from my community about orgasms, disgust in self-touch, and how to find your way back to sex after a long dry spell in a relationship. We explore the refractory period after clitoral orgasm, how to “edge” your pleasure to expand into vaginal orgasms, what’s really behind feeling icky or nauseous when you touch your body, and how to reconnect intimately with your partner when sex has felt clunky or disappointing. In this episode: Why pleasure is a choice and how attention grows desire The refractory period after clitoral orgasm and what to do about it Using edging to expand pleasure and support vaginal orgasms Disgust and nausea during self-touch as a protective, learned response Somatic and emotional tools for healing shame and body aversion Rebuilding sexual connection with your partner after months without intimacy JOIN SLUT ACADEMY 👉 JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE to get 50% off enrollment, exclusive bonuses, first access to spots, and my erotic diaries newsletter: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist Related episodes: 25: Slut Academy 26: The Slut Archetype – what and who is she and why she'll revolutionize your sex life! 97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission 34: The importance of imperfect pleasure and sex

In this episode, I unpack a powerful question from a listener who shared that while she’s a fully capable adult woman in every area of life (career, motherhood, friendship, creativity), but her sexuality still feels frozen at age twelve. She resonated deeply with my reel “Are you a teen or a woman in the bedroom?” and described the confusion of being perceived by others as sensual while internally feeling disconnected from her own body. Together, we explore what it means to evolve from that teen-like sexual identity into an embodied, confident adult woman… and how vulnerable, confusing, and awakening that transition can be. In this episode, I talk about: Why your erotic self can lag decades behind your adult self-image Early sexual imprinting and how it silently shapes your confidence today The “capable woman” identity and why sexuality is the one place it often collapses Vulnerability with your partner: why it feels terrifying and why it matters How repressing emotions shuts down your pleasure and orgasmic potential Dropping performance and approaching sexuality as a learnable skill Identity-based habits that support your evolution into an empowered sexual woman Download the Quick Start Guide to Identity-Based Habits by James Clear to map out daily actions that support your new mature sexual identity. Join the Slut Academy waitlist (sae 50% on enrollment + bonuses + frist access to limited spots) to walk this rite of passage with me over four months and become the free, powerful, orgasmic woman you came here to be: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist Powerful resource, a guided meditation, from the pod: 85. Empowering Narrative meditation

In this episode, I share what it means to step fully into your slut era inside a committed relationship (or in singlehood). I talk about why this energy is so powerful, how it revived my own desire, and how reclaiming the word slut can transform sex that feels flat, disconnected, or routine. In this episode, I talk about: What a “slut era” looks like in a monogamous marriage A new, empowering definition of the word slut Why long-term relationships often dull desire — and how slut energy reignites it Releasing shame, body judgment, and the “respectable woman” identity The difference between sensation and true erotic power Awakening the slut archetype for creativity, freedom, and wild pleasure Making space for taboo fantasies without fear or self-judgment How erotic energy boosts confidence, vitality, and relational intimacy Who Slut Academy is for and why community matters in this work JOIN THE WAITLIST HERE and get amazing discounts and bonuses PLUS my exclusive erotic diaries newsletter! https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist Related episodes: 25: Slut Academy 26: The Slut Archetype – what and who is she and why she'll revolutionize your sex life! 97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission 34: The importance of imperfect pleasure and sex

In this episode, I answer my student's question about embracing your sensuality and navigating the shift within a committed partnership. I explore how to handle new attention from others, soften old “ice queen” protection patterns, and invite your partner into this new chapter without pressure or fear. I also share pieces of my own awakening and offer mindset tools, scripts, and practices to help you feel grounded, desired, and fully in your feminine energy. In this episode, I talk about: Why your sensual awakening changes how people respond to you Old insecurities, “ice queen” energy, and stepping into embodied confidence Attention as an exchange — and why you don’t owe anyone anything Masculine vs. feminine energy in dating and long-term relationships Becoming more approachable by shifting into your feminine How to receive compliments and decline flirtation with grace Inviting your husband into your erotic growth (without pressure) Navigating light, innocent flirtation while staying in integrity Rethinking monogamy, fantasy, and relationship agreements Related episodes: 109: Q&A: Sex questions we’re afraid to ask (but should) → 107: Q&A – rebuilding desire, expressing needs, unhealthy fantasies, overcoming shame and MORE → 14: How to be sexual/sexy AND feel safe in this world Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

This short episode is a love note to your sexuality, and an invitation to come home to it. I share one of my favorite analogies to help you understand what it means to truly inhabit your sexual self, to stop treating your sexuality like an abandoned house and start tending to it like the warm, beautiful home it’s meant to be. In this episode, I share: The difference between being disconnected from your sexuality and feeling fully at home in it How neglecting your pleasure shows up in your body and relationships What it means to take ownership of your sexual energy and desires How you can start reclaiming your sexuality through simple, embodied practices An invitation to join Pleasure Treats - my mini course to help you do exactly that Links and resources: Join Pleasure treats: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/p-treats Related episodes: 32: PLEASURE TREATS → Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

This episode is another Q&A, and I love doing these because the questions always open up such real and juicy conversations. Today, I answer three big ones. They’re not quick yes or no questions, they’re the kind that touch on shame, fear, pleasure, kids, relationships, healing after trauma — all the stuff that makes sex and intimacy feel complicated and human. I share some of my own tools and perspectives that you can actually try in your own life, whether you relate directly to the questions or not. Questions answered in this episode: 1.How do I get over my insecurity with pleasuring a man? I explain how to shift from embarrassment to curiosity, work with the fears underneath, and allow yourself to learn step by step. 2. How can I feel sexual and free when I am also a mom and my kids are in the house? I talk about starting honest sex education early, creating boundaries like locking the door, and doing your own inner work so kids see sex as normal and positive. 3. Can I ever truly enjoy sex after experiencing sexual trauma? I share that deeper healing is possible by working with the subconscious and body, aiming first for emotional neutrality and then for joy and connection. Related episodes: 93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth → Let’s connect! Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

In this episode, I talk about desire as a sacred path back to yourself—how wanting (not just needing) is deeply empowering in life and in the bedroom. I share how to recognize true desires, rekindle turn-on with simple practices like fantasy and play, and meet any inner resistance with compassion. We finish with a gentle guided visualization to help you connect with your own desire and take one small, aligned step forward. In this episode, I talk about: How your desires can guide you toward an authentic life Needs vs. desires — why the difference matters Building self-worth and daring to want more Desire as the gateway to your erotic self Why fantasizing is good for your sex life Owning your turn-ons (and turn-offs) without shame Why desire doesn’t have an expiration date A guided practice to connect with what you truly crave This is a recording from a live online event I taught. Enjoy! Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux → 93: Amazing sex = amazing life. Sexual growth is at the center of all personal growth → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

This Q&A is overflowing with bold, vulnerable, and relatable questions from my FREE GROUP COACHING gathering. It’s playful, honest, and deeply empowering. Zero shame, zero filter — only truth, guidance, and pussy wisdom. In this episode, I answer: How to rebuild intimacy and desire after heartbreak in a long-term relationship Keeping the sexual spark alive in long-term relationships How to communicate likes and dislikes in bed without offending my husband How to express wanting a highly sexual partner while dating, without attracting men only seeking casual sex Are any sexual fantasies “unhealthy”? Struggling with arousal after having a child and feeling unsatisfied with quick, non-nourishing orgasms How to tell my partner I want deeper sexual growth and fulfillment when I feel too shy Overcoming shame around quick masturbation after trauma and learning to enjoy “quickies” with myself Why did my body shut down sexually after breakthrough orgasmic experiences at age 57? You can still join the FREE GROUP COACHING with me - it's free!! You the recording from the first session and are invited to the final session on Wednesday, August 27th. https://www.erika-alsborn.com/free-group-coaching Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 91: The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy 98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! → 90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

This Q&A episode is packed with real, raw, and relatable questions from my FLOWER POWER event last week. Listen and learn lots! It's fun, honest, and empowering. No shame, no filter – just truth, insight, and lots of pussy wisdom. In this episode, I answer: What does it mean that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone? Why do I feel shame or lack of fulfillment after orgasming quickly? What is de-armoring and how does it help with sexual healing? Can I explore cervical stimulation if I have an IUD? Why can’t I locate my cervix – where is it really? How do I know if a penis is touching the cervix? Is it normal to have structures inside my vagina that feel like tubes? Why do clitoral orgasms feel too intense or make me cramp? What’s the difference between self-pleasure and masturbation? What can I do when I can’t orgasm with a partner due to pressure? You can still join FLOWER POWER - it's free!! You get all the recordings and are invited to the final session on Thursday, August 14th. https://www.erika-alsborn.com/flower-power-blossom-edition Join my mastermind SHAMELESS https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless Related episodes: 98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! → 90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn

In this episode, I’m joined by Johanna, a graduate of my SHAMELESS program, just a few months after she completed the year-long journey. This conversation is full of depth, nuance, and honesty as we explore what it really means to move from codependency and self-doubt to a place of grounded, embodied power. Johanna shares how she went from longing for something she couldn’t name to fully claiming her pleasure, her voice, and her womanhood. In this episode: Johanna’s transformation from insecurity and people-pleasing to grounded self-trust What it means to “choose yourself” and move from girl to woman Releasing the fantasy of a “life script” and embracing self-authored sexuality Rewiring pleasure through consistent self-practice Investing in herself: time, energy, and money, and why it was worth it The beauty of a multi-generational women’s group and being deeply witnessed This one is rich. Johanna’s story is a beautiful example of what happens when we say yes to ourselves and allow transformation to unfold in the body, on our terms. Related episodes: 40: Reclaiming your sexuality as a personal growth journey - Interview with Carolina → 39: SHAMELESS - Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless

In this episode, I sit down with a 2023 graduate of my program, SHAMELESS - MC - to reflect on her journey, months after completing the year-long container. We talk about what led her to say yes to the program, how it changed her relationship with her body and sexuality, and the lasting impact it’s had on her life. This is a tender, honest, and often funny conversation about the real work of healing and remembering who we are. In this episode: What made her join SHAMELESS and why it felt like a full-body yes Her struggles with pleasure, intimacy, and old emotional patterns The shifts she experienced through consistent practice and group support How my voice and guidance helped her feel safe enough to soften and open What she’d say to a woman thinking of joining: “If I can do this, so can you” This conversation is for anyone craving more connection to their sensuality, softness, and self-expression. I'm so honored to share her story with you. Related episodes: 76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→ 73: Marcella's Journey Through SHAMELESS and the Story of Surrendering to Self→ Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Join the waitlist for Shameless: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist

Hey, dear friend, It’s been a while. This episode is me catching you up on where I’ve been, what I’ve been moving through, and why I took a 5-month break from the podcast. No script, just me showing up raw, real, and ready to be seen. I share about the deep inner work I’ve been doing behind the scenes—what cracked me open, some old painful beliefs that surfaced, and what it’s been like to really face myself. It’s been humbling, healing, and wild. And honestly, I feel like I’m coming back to life. Slowly. Gently. But truly. In this episode, I share: Why I hit pause on everything and what brought me to my knees The spiral of “I’m not good enough” that took over last winter How I decided to finally face the roots, not just the symptoms What it means to feel safe, loved, and enough in my body again How this deep inner work has made me a better coach, partner, and human A little peek at what’s coming next (👀 Shameless is returning soon!) This isn’t just a “back online” announcement—it’s a love letter to my own healing and an invitation for you to feel a little less alone in yours. I’m still integrating, still unwinding old stories, still walking the walk. But I’m here. And I’m so glad you are too. Thanks for listening. Thanks for being here. Talk soon, Erika Links and recourses: Shameless mastermind opening soon: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/shameless-waitlist Related Episode: 39. SHAMELESS – Magnify your capacity to feel pleasure and be powerful and orgasmic https://open.spotify.com/episode/26A7X2Blk40S9bddSpyEWQ?si=0c93984d06d4490e

Tired of the same old, same old in the bedroom? Feeling bored with your sex life? This episode explores how incorporating roleplay can reignite passion, deepen intimacy, and bring back the thrill to your relationship. I dive deep into the world of sexual roleplay, exploring its benefits, how to get started, and how to make it a safe and enjoyable experience for both partners. We'll discuss how roleplay can break down inhibitions, foster communication, and add a much-needed dose of adventure to your relationship. Join for valuable insights and practical tips on how to rediscover the spark in your relationship. In this episode: The importance of play. Understanding the nuances of roleplay and how it can be applied to sexual encounters. Benefits of roleplay How roleplay can help you break free from sexual inhibitions and explore new desires. How to get started with roleplay Tips for successful roleplay Common misconceptions of roleplay Special Mention: Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence. LINK TO SLUT ACADEMY Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 97: Erotic expansion – understanding and playing with domination and submission→ 94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux →

Have you ever wondered how to transform your menstruation into a source of power, honor, and healing? In this final episode of the three-part series on menstruation, I delve into the transformative power of your cycle and the deep symbolism of menstrual blood. From rituals that honor your feminine essence to meditation designed to help you connect with your womb, this episode offers profound tools to shift your mindset and embrace menstruation as a sacred practice. Whether you're actively menstruating or past that phase of life, this episode provides insights and practices that can resonate with every woman. This episode invites you to reimagine your relationship with menstruation and discover the profound empowerment it holds. In this episode: The importance of changing your attitude toward period blood. Ritualistic ways to honor your menstrual cycle, including painting, free bleeding, and offering your blood to nature. How to use menstruation as a portal for emotional and spiritual release. Practical guidance on how to release negative beliefs and embrace the dark goddess within. Using your cycle as a time for introspection, wisdom gathering, and transformation. Special Mention: Enrollment for Slut Academy is now open! This transformative four-month course is designed to help you reclaim your sexual power, creativity, and pleasure. With guided rituals, practices, and a supportive community, it's the ultimate journey to rediscover and celebrate your erotic essence. https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 92: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding → 95: Menstruation part 2: The power of bleeding, life and death cycles and menarche →

What does it mean to reflect on a decade of transformation—as a coach, entrepreneur, wife, and mother—and come out stronger, hornier, and more grateful than ever? In this milestone 100th episode, I take a heartfelt and celebratory dive into a decade of personal and professional evolution. From starting this podcast in 2022 to 10 transformative years as a sex coach, this journey is marked by challenges, profound self-growth, and unapologetic celebration. Join me as I reflect on building a thriving business, navigating the deep spiritual practice of marriage, motherhood, and self-acceptance, and embracing life as a vibrant, sexual woman. This episode is a love letter to you, the listener, and to the power of following your desires, facing your fears, and honoring your unique journey. In this episode: The birth and growth of the podcast over the past two and a half years. A decade-long journey from nursing to becoming a successful online sex coach. Overcoming fears, doubts, and societal expectations to follow a deep desire for transformation. The evolution of business maturity: navigating jealousy, comparison, and finding your unique pace. Transformative lessons learned as a wife and the profound impact of marriage on personal growth. Reflections on motherhood, grief, and gratitude for the joys and responsibilities it brings. Embracing a calm, grounded life versus the excitement of youth—and finding joy in simplicity. The spiritual practice of devotion, surrender, and acceptance in marriage and life. Sexual liberation as a choice: how intimacy and sexual expression thrive in everyday life. Insights from The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle and its role in reigniting intimacy in marriage. Highlights from a transformative family trip to Thailand: balancing expectations and reality. Launch of Slut Academy : a container for sexual liberation, freedom, and expression. Related Episodes: 98: Unleash and embody the Slut Archetype for the best sex and pleasure! → 88: Motherhood is kicking my butt lately and other motherhood, marriage and life reflections → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist Join my newsletter here: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/60197b02f8ac924b3dce5b50

Do you truly feel your sensations? Or are you disconnected from the language of your inner world? In this episode, I explore the profound and transformative practice of sensation focus - learning to tune into the subtle signals of your body to deepen your connection with pleasure, self-awareness, and spiritual essence. From understanding the basics of sensation literacy to how it can unlock better orgasms and an anchored sense of self, this conversation is an invitation to step beyond a thought-based identity and into your embodied inner life. Take a moment to pause, turn your gaze inward, and explore what your body is communicating to you right now. This episode invites you into a deeper relationship with yourself, empowering you to feel more, experience more, and ultimately, be more. In this episode: Why sensation focus is essential for pleasure, self-knowledge, and spiritual fulfillment. How pleasure, energy, and sensation are interconnected. The disconnection many people feel from their inner bodies—and how to overcome it. Practical exercises to cultivate sensation focus, including meditative and self-pleasure practices. Why a thought-based identity limits your sense of self and how sensations can help bridge the gap. The transformative power of naming sensations and creating a nuanced "language of sensation." Examples of sensations you can tune into, from fluttery and pulsating to grounded and expansive. Related Episodes: 94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux → 91: The language of touch and using sensual massage as a path to deeper relationship intimacy → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist

What does it mean to truly embrace your pleasure? Channeling the Slut archetype is about owning your joy, playfulness, and satisfaction. It’s about enjoying your body and its capacity for pleasure—free of shame and guilt. The slut celebrates pleasure for its own sake, in every form: from sex to dancing, eating, singing, and beyond. In this episode, I dive deep into the misunderstood power of the slut archetype. Why is this energy judged and suppressed? How can reclaiming it leads to liberation and empowerment? Learn how to embrace your inner slut and unleash her vibrant, sexy, and joyful essence—for your benefit and for those lucky enough to encounter a free slut’s energy. In this episode: What are archetypes? Redefining the slut archetype. How liberating your inner slut can transform your life. A guided practice to unleash your slut energy. Everything you need to know about Slut Academy. Related Episodes: 14: How to be sexual/sexy AND feel safe in this world→ 24: Harness your erotic power → 25: Slut Academy → Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Slut Academy waitlist: https://www.erika-alsborn.com/s-academy-waitlist

Why do so many women feel a powerful craving for surrender in the bedroom but hold themselves back? How do modern ideals shape our desires and fears in intimate dynamics? In this episode, I dive deep into the often taboo topic of domination and submission in sexuality, exploring how contrary to a common opinion, these dynamics can lead to profound bliss, healing, and self-intimacy. I talk about the conflict many women feel when considering the desire for surrender, the pressures of modern feminist ideals, and the misconceptions around submission. This episode reveals how true domination and submission transcend stereotypes through insightful examples and wisdom from experts like Kasia Urbaniak, offering a transformative way for women to connect deeply with their own desires. In this episode: The taboo and craving for surrender in the bedroom: why so many women desire it yet hesitate. How feminist ideals can create inner conflict. Breaking down stereotypes and misconceptions. The importance of safety and trust in dominant-submissive dynamics. How submission invites profound intimacy and self-connection for women. The difference between toxic power dynamics and consensual, healing experiences. Dominant's focus outward and submissive's focus inward. Recognizing dominance and submission beyond the bedroom. Kasia Urbaniak's perspectives on attention and healthy submission. Introducing different sexual personality types from Miss. Jaiya. Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence → 94: Kink as a healing and self-discovery tool with Faith Laux → Kasia’s Urbaniak book: https://www.amazon.com/Unbound-Womans-Guide-Kasia-Urbaniak/dp/0593084519

Have you ever wondered about what sex after birth truly feels like? Not the advice you get in medical handouts, but the real, raw experience of reconnecting with your body after the intense transformation of giving birth. In today’s episode, I’m addressing an often-overlooked topic: sex after giving birth. This conversation is for every mother—whether you’re just beginning to think about motherhood, you’ve been a mother for years, or you’ve experienced childbirth long ago. I’m here to discuss how society’s focus on a baby’s health often leaves mothers’ physical, mental, and sexual wellbeing in the shadows. Together, we’ll explore how to approach sex after birth as a healing, ritualistic experience, and how to reconnect with your sexuality in a way that feels safe, honoring, and even pleasurable. This episode is an invitation to slow down, honor your needs, and reconnect with your body in a new way—no matter when you give birth. In this episode: Healthcare’s narrow focus on new mother's sexual and mental health after giving birth. Sex after childbirth can be a tender and transformative experience. How can the first experience be made back intimate and ceremonial, allowing for healing and integration of the birth experience. How to experience both, pleasure and healing. The role of open and honest communication with your partner. How to honor physical changes and explore intimacy in a way that is grounded and aligned with the new motherhood experience. Embracing the duality of being both a mother and a sexual woman. A practical exercise as a way to reconnect, heal, and bring compassion to your body and experience. Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 90: Perfectionism is blocking you from intimacy, pleasure and partnered sex → 69: The ultimate desire hack: how to have more sex in your longterm relationship → 65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →

Have you ever thought about the connection between your menstrual cycle and the cycles of life and death? In this episode, I continue the exploration of the topic of menstruation with part two of a three-part series. I dive into the symbolism of menstruation, its deep connection to the moon, and how your body mirrors the cycles of nature. You’ll also learn how creating rituals around your menstrual cycle can bring healing, and empowerment, and even alleviate symptoms like PMS. Discover the wisdom that your womb carries and how to reclaim the sacredness of menstruation. Tune in for a deeper understanding of the magic and power of your womb! In this episode: The life-death cycle and its connection to menstruation How your first period (Menarche) sets the tone for your menstruating years The phases of your menstrual cycle and how they correspond with the moon The power of rituals in honoring your body and cycle Shedding societal shame and embracing the beauty of menstruation The eight phases of the moon and their connection to the menstrual cycle How modern life disrupts this natural alignment Rituals for tuning into your cycle and feeling connected to the moon's energy The symbolism of menstruation and its connection to life, death, and liberation How ancient cultures honored menstruation and why it's powerful to reclaim this wisdom today The sacred ritual of Menarche Let’s connect! Join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 92: Menstruation part 1: A journey to menstrual empowerment and understanding →

What happens when you finally allow yourself to embrace your deepest desires fully? In this deeply personal and raw episode, I talk with my friend and former client, Faith Laux. Faith is a somatic sex and relationship coach whose transformational work helps people reconnect with the wisdom, intuition, and magic of their bodies, empowering them to thrive sexually. Today, Faith and I dive into the layers of healing, yearning, and self-discovery through the lens of kink. After being diagnosed with cancer, Faith experienced a life-altering realization: there were parts of herself she had suppressed, particularly in the realm of desire. This episode explores how acknowledging and pursuing Faith’s long-held yearning for kink became a powerful tool for healing—not only for herself but also within her marriage. We discuss the importance of owning your desires, the distinction between kink and sexuality, and how kink doesn’t always equate to sex. Whether you're familiar with kink or not, this conversation reveals how living fully aligned with your truth can unlock profound transformation and growth. This episode is about more than just kink; it’s about desire, healing, and being honest with yourself and your partner. In this episode: How facing mortality can awaken dormant desires The importance of acknowledging your yearning, even if you can’t fulfill it Navigating consent and communication in relationships Healing through kink and the different forms it can take Emotional release and catharsis in kink practices Misconceptions about kink and how it differs from the swinger community The power of vulnerability and intimacy in non-sexual kink experiences Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Pussy worship link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/606c5b3c156ede08a80af515 Connect with Faith: Visit her website Check out her Kink Curious Course Find her on IG: https://www.instagram.com/faithlaux Related Episodes: 77: Reclaiming Feminine Power & Energy with Sheila Kelley → 76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→

Why is understanding your sexual self the key to unlocking other desires and personal growth? In this episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of sexuality. I talk about how working through sexual blockages and limiting beliefs not only enhances your sexual life but also has a profound impact on your overall well-being. Drawing from personal experiences and coaching sessions in the "Shameless" program, I walk you through the stages of confronting and embracing sexuality. By understanding and expanding the capacity to handle uncomfortable emotions, women can achieve a liberated, empowered life. This episode is a call to prioritize pleasure, reclaim sexual agency, and take action to live the life you truly deserve. In this episode: The process of unblocking your sexuality for personal transformation How clarity and acceptance help shift perspectives and behaviors The importance of holistic sex practices and inner parts work Rewiring your emotional responses and embracing uncomfortable emotions Building capacity for uncomfortable emotions and expanding your sexual boundaries The connection between sexual agency and overall life agency Sexuality as a core aspect of human and feminine health The journey from a disconnected, immature sexuality to full sexual agency The role of sexual subjectivity and embracing sexual maturity How embracing sexuality helps you embrace other desires in life, such as new hobbies and self-expression Real-life transformations from the Shameless program How sexual liberation leads to increased capacity, confidence, and happiness across all areas of life Book recommendations Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Recommended books: "Pussy: A Reclamation" by Regina Thomashauer "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski Ph. D. Related Episodes: 77: Reclaiming Feminine Power & Energy with Sheila Kelley → 76: SHAMELESS - Exploring the Depths of Sexual Empowerment with Faith→

Have you ever stopped to consider the profound relationship you have with your menstrual cycle? Welcome to today's episode! In this exciting first part of a three-part series on menstruation, I dive deep into the importance of discussing menstruation and the often-overlooked aspects of this natural process. We explore why menstruation is relevant in conversations about female sexuality and empowerment. I’ll be reading a poignant poem about bleeding, sharing journal prompts, and encouraging you to embark on your own self-inquiry. My goal is to help you create a conscious relationship with your menstrual cycle and empower you to embrace this significant aspect of being a woman. Join me as we begin to unravel the stigma surrounding menstruation and seek to honor the cycles that shape our lives. In this episode: The importance of talking about menstruation Overcoming societal stigma around menstrual blood The importance of understanding your own menstrual cycle The impact of hormonal birth control on your menstruation Creating rituals and celebrations around menstruation Journal prompts for self-reflection and deeper understanding of your menstrual cycle Understanding the four phases of the menstrual cycle: menstruation, follicular phase, ovulation, and luteal phase The relationship between menstruation and female empowerment Reading of the poem "Women are tired of the ways men bleed" by Judy Grahn Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 64: Embracing your inner witch: remembering forgotten reproductive health and natural fertility awareness practices – interview with Siri Kalla → 83: How to release feelings of aversion and ickiness towards your lady bits →

How can touch transform your relationship and bring back intimacy in ways you never imagined? In today’s episode, I dive deep into the transformative power of touch within relationships. After a long and much-needed summer break filled with family time, I'm back to discuss the art of touch, its importance, and how it can rejuvenate your connection with your partner, children, and even friends. This episode is packed with practical tips and techniques on how to cultivate a more intentional and sensual touch. Whether you're in a long-term relationship or navigating singlehood, this episode offers valuable insights into reigniting the spark through the often-forgotten language of touch. In this episode: - How touch can rekindle intimacy and connection, especially in long-term partnerships. - Understanding our biological need for human contact and how to satisfy it. - Practical techniques and tips on creating a sensual atmosphere, the importance of presence, and how to give and receive pleasure without expectation. - Exploring often-overlooked areas of the body that can bring immense pleasure. - How to lovingly communicate your desires and guide your partner during touch and massage. - How can incorporating more touch deepen your bond with your children? - Ideas for setting aside time for non-sexual sensual touch to nourish your relationship. - Encouraging more verbal and non-verbal communication during intimate moments. Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community – Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/plsrebels Follow and reach out on IG: https://www.instagram.com/erikaalsborn Links and resources: Honey pot link: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/602aaf6ff6b5473d9134edfc Related Episodes: 86: Sensuality vs Sexuality → 65: The power of surrender: unlocking deeper pleasure and presence →

Today Erika is debunking one of the reasons why a lot of women are not having amazing sensual and sexual experiences, solo or partnered: The strive for perfection in sexual encounters, even if it's unconscious. If you tend to be too harsh with yourself and/or if you are in a long-term relationship, this episode is for you. Have you ever had the following thoughts? In order to have delicious sex and orgasms it all needs to be spontaneous and beautiful, the environment and mood must be ideal, there can't be any tension and you must get wet and horny immediately, If yes, that internal pressure on your body and pussy is blocking you from unparalleled sexual experiences and orgasms because it doesn't let you be fully present and get really intimate. When you are in a long-term relationship, it is not uncommon to leave the sexual experiences just for "when they happen." If they happen, there are strict expectations around them, and often the turn-on comes AFTER, but it is hardly ever maintained as a constant state of mind. Intimacy is about connecting, not perfection. Tune in and learn how to set the ground for consistency, maintain your turn-on, and eventually unlock unparalleled sexual pleasure and orgasms. In this episode: What is the big myth preventing you from experiencing sexual pleasure and orgasms. What's the enemy of delightful sexual encounters in long-term relationships. How to shift your mindset and "live" on the edge of having a fulfilling sexuality. Let’s connect! Come join me and like-minded women in my FREE women-only, sex-positive community Pleasure Rebels Facebook Group Follow and reach out on IG Sign up to receive the BEST and most beautiful newsletter on the planet here Related Episodes 24: Harness your erotic power 22: An ancient practice that activates a dormant sexuality (Deer Exercise) 18: Super effective and empowered foreplay 08: The 5 Essential Tools to be TURNED ON