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This month on the Deep Dive series we're joined by journalist Natalie Robehmed, whose exclusive access to Allison Mack after her time in prison culminated in the podcast Allison After NXIVM. We'll explore the fine line...

This week we're joined buy Molly Lambert, host of the JennaWorld podcast all about Jenna Jameson, Vivid Video, & The Valley. We track the recent history of porn from kid Rock's open fandom to today's manosphere no-nut...

Noelle Perdue, writer of the PORN WORLD substack and noted Thinker of Thoughts joins us on the pod this week to break down the porn industry, the power of performance, and unexpected uses for the hobby horse you left in...

A listener wants to know how to curate a conscious breakup, and Lina speaks to the unusual amount of D/s ghosts she's heard about lately. THE ASK A SUB GIFT GUIDE - Get your person a gift subscription or package of...

This week Lina puts on her etiquette hat to solve the age-old issue of who cleans up after a scene! Also included are Mr. Dune reading assignments, a happy switching story, and bizarre kinks. Read the substack article...

What happens when you have to take a pause but centuries of social conditioning tell you you're not allowed to stop until your partner comes?? Follow Lina into the McDonald's drive-through and out of the endless...

Lina takes the mic this week to clarify a misunderstanding about the responsibility of subs in D/s dynamics, how both partners can bring 100%, and once again breaks the bad news that, yes, we have to talk to people...

How DO you f*ck like a girl?? Vera Blossom has the answers in her debut essay collection by the same name, a trans coming of age that reads like an epic poem made out with a tumblr blog in a public bathroom. We talk...

Lina is back and we're easing you back in with a medium-unhinged episode title & a discussion about how to bolster communication among the neurospicy folks in your dynamic (insert us, the caller, their partner, and all...

Hey raccoons! Lina's still away on her meditation retreat so it's Mr. Dune again. Don't worry, Lina will be back next week (she's coming home tomorow 🎉) and the episode titles and descriptions will resume some...

Hey ya'll, Lina's off on a meditation retreat out of cell phone range so it's Mr. Dune's job to write up the title and the podcast description for this week's episode, so please don't blame Lina for this week's...

In honor of the Folsom Street Fair happening this weekend, we're rummaging through the Ask a Sub Supply Closet full of lube and butt plugs to bring you this gem on the history of the fair, so cue up some disco and put...

Ok so if kink isn't role play for you but you want to inject some role play in your kink… what the heck do you do? This Hellraiser-style puzzle box has summoned Lina from beyond the grave to ponder the ins and outs of...

A listener wants to enter THE THUD ZONE *guitar solo* *flames* *monster truck* and Lina activates her Special Interest mode to outline what makes a toy thuddy, why masochists love them, what to buy, and how to use them...

When are we being too picky with our play partners? Listen, nothing is perfect, but if your ick is "doesn't respect my boundaries" or "is unsafe" … time to yeet. Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A...

Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux's upcoming book 'Touch Me I'm Sick ' at your local indie bookstore or wherever books are...

Today Lina reads a piece that's popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are we horny for what scares us? Well step right up to the...

A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on this topic, Lina discusses the ins and outs of codependence...

It's summer. It's hot. It's sexy. And what's more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating pool is already...

We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for regulation, connection, and what to do when you get super horny...

Hey it's the episode where you write in and ask about the light or deep kink questions that are on your mind! Today we're talking about how being a human ottoman can activate your parasympathetic nervous system, how to...

What do online privacy, sex work decrim, fire butt pix, and clowns have in common? Well they're all special interests of our Deep Dive guest this month — Gutter! Gutter is one of our long time moderators of the Ask A...

Should we keep our friendships separate from our D/s dynamics? Should we merge all our relationships, friendships, and situationships into the world's largest cuddle puddle? What can we learn, aside from the latest...

ISN'T BEING AN OPEN-HEARTED AND EVOLVED HUMAN SO FUN??? HAHA Well this week we're talking about what to do when your partner is in love, not forcing yourself to feel compersion before you're ready, and some hot takes on...

The first brick at Stonewall. The repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell". Obergefell v. Hodges. What better way to commemorate these extremely profound and meaningful moments in the history of the struggle for LGBTQ+ rights...