When doing everything “right” in recovery leaves you smaller, sicker, and further away from yourself.For two years, I did exactly what I was told.Six days a week. Sometimes two meetings a day. Inpatient rehabilitation. Outpatient rehabilitation. Sponsors. Step work. Inventories. Confessions. Amends.I stayed sober.But I was not becoming healthier.I was becoming smaller.In this deeply personal episode of Notes From the Edge, I explore what happens when a recovery model fails to recognize the person sitting in front of it, especially when that person is also carrying childhood trauma, sexual assault, domestic violence, psychiatric diagnoses, shame, and a profoundly dysregulated nervous system.This is not an attack on AA.If AA saved your life, I celebrate that. Truly. Keep going.This is a grief story about realizing that the map I had been given was never designed for the terrain I was walking.We will talk about:• The difference between staying sober and actually healing• When “sharing” becomes uncontained trauma dumping• Why powerlessness, defect language, and submission may affect traumatized women differently• The importance of nervous system regulation, boundaries, safety, and co-regulation• Modern trauma approaches such as EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and somatic therapy• The evolving science of addiction and neuroplasticity• Alternatives including SMART Recovery, Women for Sobriety, LifeRing, medication-assisted treatment, recovery coaching, therapy, purpose, community, and connection• Why informed choice should be part of every recovery conversationMy nervous system did not need another moral inventory.It needed safety.Recovery should not require abandoning your intuition or becoming less yourself. It should help you become more yourself.And if one approach is not helping you heal, that does not automatically mean you are broken.Maybe you simply need a different map.This episode reflects personal experience and is intended for education and conversation. It is not a substitute for individualized medical or mental health care.Learn more about Lisa Lacy and her work at www.lisalacy.comAnd before we leave, I want to ask you the question I ask every guest:What did you perform in order to survive?Welcome to the Edge.
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