Episode 419: How To Set Boundaries In Relationships

A lot of the advice we hear about setting boundaries is just plain wrong. So in today’s show, we’re going to explore what you need to know about setting healthy boundaries. We’re also going to discuss why boundaries aren’t just important in our romantic and sexual relationships, but in all of the other relationships we have in our lives, too.

I am joined once again by KC Davis, the bestselling author of How to Keep House While Drowning. A licensed therapist, she is the creator of the popular Struggle Care website and Instagram, and the Domestic Blisters TikTok. Her latest book is titled Who Deserves Your Love: How To Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

• What do people often get wrong about setting boundaries?
• How can you establish and communicate about your boundaries more effectively?
• How do we navigate feelings of hurt when it comes to boundary setting?
• What’s the problem with being a people-pleaser?
• How can we maintain boundaried relationships with someone who’s underfunctioning?

You can check out KC’s website to learn more about her work.

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