Mercedes Coffman is a writer, researcher, and cultural commentator.
What’s happening with modern dating? People who are genuinely ready for a relationship feel frustrated, even punished by a shallow dating pool, yet others seem to find real love every day. So what’s actually broken, and what can be fixed?
Expect to learn why avoidant culture is changing relationship expectations, if modern dating is punishing emotionally available people, why dating fatigue is kicking in, if someone is actually too busy for you or if they just say they are, the most common ways people unknowingly sabotage their own relationships, why you can just “fix her” and much more…
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Timestamps:
(0:00) How Avoidant Culture is Rewriting Relationships
(1:55) Does Modern Dating Punish Emotionally Availability?
(4:20) What Makes Emotionally Available People Vulnerable?
(8:51) How to Spot Emotional Availability
(12:00) What Does a Perfect Match Really Look Like?
(13:33) What Blocks True Alignment?
(16:39) Are We Too Obsessed With Love?
(25:28) Why Discernment is the Ultimate Relationship Skill
(34:23) How Do Rom-Coms Distort Our Love Lives
(37:02) Romantasy: Escapism or Soft-Core Porn?
(39:55) Does Desire Outpace Emotional Capacity?
(42:53) Why We Self-Sabotage in Relationships
(45:10) The Best Way to Build Emotional Capacity
(46:16) Does Trauma Drive Relationship Self-Sabotage?
(49:32) We Need to Start With Self-Acceptance
(01:04:07) Why We Crave Chaos and Stability
(01:07:34) Love Bombing: The Most Dangerous Red Flag
(01:14:15) Who Falls Hardest Into Limerence?
(01:17:35) Why Inconsistent Praise Hooks You In
(01:25:37) The Wrong People Are the Hardest to Get Over
(01:27:30) Stop Being So Hard on Yourself
(01:28:53) How to Comfortably Hold Your Boundaries
(01:30:33) Where to Find Mercedes
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