“The best friendships are mirrors reflecting your growth, not shadows competing with your light.” In this insightful episode of The Forties Formula podcast , hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with SHIREENA SHROFF MANCHHARAM , the visionary Founder and Principal Consultant of Sheens Consulting and the creator of the mental health movement Getting to Happy and ANJU CAWTHRA , a dynamic community leader, broadcaster, and the Director of Seasoned Singapore Expat Women, for an unfiltered conversation about female friendship. Together, we reflect on the differences between friendships in our twenties and forties, from nights out and wide social circles to quieter and meaningful connections. We explore what it means to truly cherish low-maintenance, high-quality friendships that survive distance, time, and life’s many changes. This honest and thoughtful episode will have you nodding along, smiling, and reaching out to that friend you have been meaning to catch up with. In this episode, we explore: • How female friendships shift as we grow older and priorities change • How personal growth and life stages affect who we stay close to • The difference between texting and truly showing up in friendship --------- CHAPTERS 05:47 — Friendships easier in twenties 10:06 — Maintaining friendships takes effort 11:44 — Saying “no” helps focus on real friends 17:43 — Let go of draining friends 27:26 — The superficial standards 28:44 — Red flags and green flags for female friendships 31:23 — The best friendships accept you in every season 33:23 — Respect how people choose to share their lives 36:26 — Don’t wait to be invited, create the moment 37:00 — Say yes to connection, even when it’s not perfect 47:02 – Friendships can rekindle even after decades 50:05 – Let the community carry itself 52:05 – The formula for friendship in your 40s Special Thanks to Our Sponsors: 🥩 The Meat Club – Get $12 off your first order with code TFF12 🌯 Guzman y Gomez – Where Clean is the New Healthy - 21 restaurants deliver islandwide! 💊 AVEA Longevity - Use code FORMULA20 for 20% your entire purchase at avea-life.com ______________ 📩 Join our mailing list for exclusive content, our weekly Friday FOURPlay newsletter, expert tips, and early access to giveaways! 🎙️ THE FORTIES FORMULA IS GOING LIVE IN SG this August 14th - sn ag your ticket here !