In this episode of The Curiosity Shop, Brené Brown and Adam Grant unpack the paradoxes that shape our lives, relationships, leadership, and decision-making. They explore the Abilene Paradox, the Stockdale Paradox, why groups often make decisions nobody actually wants, and how people balance gritty facts with gritty faith. The conversation moves through spirituality, teamwork, family dynamics, optimism, creativity, and even unexpected debates about Twilight and Pitch Perfect. Funny, thoughtful, and deeply human, this episode examines why two opposite truths can exist at the same time and why learning to live inside that tension may be one of the most important skills we have.
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00:00 Intro: Paradoxes, Dad Jokes & Big Questions
04:20 What Is a Paradox?
10:15 The Grace Paradox
19:02 The Abilene Paradox
27:04 How to Avoid the Abilene Paradox
30:45 Guilty Pleasures: Twilight, Pitch Perfect & Eurovision
38:38 Aesthetic Chills & The Big Five
43:08 The Stockdale Paradox Explained
46:48 Gritty Facts vs. Gritty Faith
49:47 Why Leaders Need Paradoxical Thinking
51:04 MLK’s “I Have a Dream” Speech
55:39 Candor Over Consensus
57:32 Comfort vs. Courage
1:02:06 Jim Collins & The Genius of the And
1:06:48 Harvard's Anti-Grade Inflation Policy
1:09:21 How Brené Grades Group Projects
1:13:19 Building the Muscle to Hold Paradox
1:14:54 Personal Paradoxes & The Grace of Getting It Wrong
Lump - Allison Sweet Grant, September 2026, Little, Brown and Co. (Forthcoming book)
Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems - Smith & Lewis, 2022, Harvard Business Review Press (Book)
Toward A Theory of Paradox: A Dynamic Equilibrium Model of Organizing - Smith & Lewis, 2011, Academy of Management Review
Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World - Adam Grant, October 2026, Vking (Forthcoming book)
Holding the Tension, The Wisdom of Paradox - Adapted, 2024, from Richard Rohr, The Naked Now: Learning to See as the Mystics See, 2009, Center for Action and Contemplation,
Strong Ground: The Lessons of Daring Leadership, the Tenacity of Paradox, and the Wisdom of the Human Spirit - Brené Brown, 2025, Random House
SmartLess (Guest: Stephen Colbert) - Arnett, Bateman & Hayes, SiriusXM/Wondery (Podcast)
The Abilene Paradox: The Management of Agreement - Harvey, 1974, Organizational Dynamics
Eurovision Song-Along: Story of Fire Saga: "Song-Along" - Dobking, D. (Director), 2020, Netflix (Movie clip)
Grease: "You're The One That I Want" - Kleiser, R. (Director) 1978, Paramount Pictures (Movie clip)
Brain Connectivity Reflects Human Aesthetic Responses to Music - Sachs, Ellis, Schlaug & Loui, 2016, Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience
Aesthetic Chills as a Universal Marker of Openness to Experience - McCrae, 2007, Motivation and Emotion
The Stockdale Paradox - Jim Collins, 2017, jimcollins.com
Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap... and Others Don't - Jim Collins, 2001, HarperBusiness (Book)
Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts - Brené Brown, 2018, Random House (Book)
The Discovery of Grounded Theory: Strategies for Qualitative Research - Barney Glaser and Anselm Strauss, 1967, Aldine (Book)
It's 2020, Stop Saying 'Negative Nancy' - Sexist colloquialisms to avoid - Eskreis-Winkler, 2020, An Injustice! (Magazine)
https://www.feministlawprofessors.com/2008/07/nervous-nellie-was-not-a-woman/
The Will and the Ways: Development and Validation of an Individual-Differences Measure of Hope - Snyder et al., 1991, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
An analysis of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr's "I Have a Dream" public speech - Duarte, 2011
BE 2.0 (Beyond Entrepreneurship 2.0): Turning Your Business into an Enduring Great Company - Collins and Lazier, 2020, Portfolio/Penguin (Book)
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