You keep losing your keys, missing appointments, and wondering why everyone else seems to be holding it all together—but maybe it’s not just chaos or poor time management. What if your brain is just wired differently ? In this validating episode of T he Forties Formula , hosts Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim are joined by Dr. Emma Waddington , a clinical psychologist and founder of Us Therapy, to unpack what ADHD and neurodivergence really look like in women—especially those in their forties who’ve spent decades masking, overcompensating, and burning out. In this episode, we explore: Why so many women with ADHD are misdiagnosed The tropes of the “hyper little boy” and the “good girl” - why girls learn to mask early The feast-or-famine cycle of the ADHD brain How to stop self-blame and start using your wiring to your advantage with practical tips from gamifying boring tasks to using novelty wisely Emma reminds us that ADHD is not a deficit, but a different operating system —one driven by interest, challenge, and stimulation. With self-compassion and structure, ADHD women can rediscover what it feels like to thrive. Whether you’ve always felt “a bit much” – or you’re just now wondering if something deeper is at play – this conversation will make you feel seen. Listen now w herever you get your podcasts —and if this episode struck a chord, forward it to a friend who might be needing to hear the same perspective. 💌 You can support The Forties Formula by leaving a review or subscribing on YouTube for more great content. 00:00 – Intro to Dr. Emma Waddington 03:21 – Why Women Are Often Missed with ADHD 06:35 – The ADHD Brain: Interest, Stress, Novelty 10:58 – The Dopamine Mining Hypothesis 14:10 – Hyperfocus, Exhaustion & Burnout Explained 17:45 – Parenting, Repetition, and ADHD Fatigue 21:00 – Structure, Routine & Everyday Executive Dysfunction 24:12 – ADHD, Relationships & Emotional Triggers 28:40 – Rejection Sensitivity and Time Blindness 32:30 – ADHD in Couples: Challenges and Teamwork 39:02 – ADHD, Nutrition, Caffeine, and Binge Eating 43:27 – The Spectrum Question: “Does Everyone Have a Bit of ADHD?” 48:50 – What’s YOUR forties formula & Episode Wrap-Up _____________ Special Thanks to Our Sponsors: 🥩 The Meat Club – Get $12 off your first order with code TFF12 🌯 Guzman y Gomez – Want to try their limited-edition Chicken Rendang for FREE? 🍛 Leave us a review, DM us a screenshot, and be one of the first 10 listeners to grab a code! ______________ 📩 Join our mailing list for exclusive content, our weekly Friday FOURPlay newsletter, expert tips, and early access to giveaways!
