What does it take to finally break the alcohol shame spiral when it's been running your life for decades? Krista knows the cycle well: a data point, the crushing shame that followed, a vow to do better, and then the slow, sneaky creep back to hiding bottles and pulling over on the side of the road to drink before going home. In this episode, she sits down with Coach Cole Harvey to share the full arc of her journey, from a childhood in the American South to bartending in New York City, to raising two kids in rural Ireland with no family nearby, to the night something finally, irreversibly shifted. A year into her alcohol-free life, Krista is clear: the work was hard, and she has never once looked back.
In this episode, Krista and Coach Cole discuss:
Growing up with alcohol woven into every family gathering, and starting drinking at 12 or 13 as a way to finally feel like she belonged
Bartending in New York City in her twenties, closing bars with no memory of getting home, and knowing even then that something was wrong
Moving to Ireland, losing her father while pregnant with her first child, and leaning harder on alcohol to cope with grief and isolation
Years of trying — and failing — to moderate, from "only on weekends" to hiding bottles, and the shame spiral that followed every data point
The rock bottom moment her husband came home and there was no hiding it anymore, and why that night became the turning point she couldn't explain
Returning to counseling, reconnecting with her Path community, and doing the inner work of learning she was worthy of her own care
Building a morning practice of meditation, journaling, and yoga, and recognizing that self-care wasn't a luxury but a necessity for her freedom
The daffodil metaphor: planting seeds at the beginning of her journey, and finally learning to cut the flowers and bring the beauty inside
And more on self-compassion, the stop-start cycle, and what it actually means to believe you are enough…
Episode links: nakedmindpath.com
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Stopping The Shame Spiral | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E883 — https://thisnakedmind.com/stopping-the-shame-spiral-afc-e883/
Overcoming Shame and Embarrassment After Drinking | Reader's Question | EP 722 — https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-722-readers-question-overcoming-shame-and-embarrassment-after-drinking/
Naked Life Story: Angela | EP 147 — https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-147-naked-life-story-angela/
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