Why do so many Christian men feel like they’re failing — at work, in marriage, in their faith — but still refuse to ask for help? In this raw and deeply moving episode, Ken Freire sits down with pastor, author, and counselor Eric Schumacher , who shares the story of how shame, perfectionism, and pressure to perform nearly crushed his ministry. From childhood insecurities to ministry burnout, Eric thought being strong meant never showing weakness — until one night he broke down completely… and God showed up in the wreckage. Eric opens up about his “dark night of the soul,” how pastoral pressure cost him connection with his family, and why Jesus’ weakness , not worldly strength, is the model for true Christian manhood. Whether you’re exhausted from trying to hold it all together, or silently wondering if you’re failing as a man — this episode may be the turning point you didn’t know you needed. ⏱️ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Why men hide weakness 01:20 — Meet Eric Schumacher 03:00 — Childhood perfectionism and approval addiction 05:45 — Ministry ambition and impure motives 08:00 — Burnout, anxiety, and the collapse of control 10:05 — The night Eric tore his Bible apart 13:00 — Grace shows up through his wife and elders 16:00 — How ministry hurt his marriage and parenting 19:30 — Numbing, anger, and checking out 23:00 — Why Christian men fear appearing weak 28:00 — Jesus’ model of godly weakness 33:30 — God's power made perfect in weakness 38:00 — Why Paul boasted in his shame 48:00 — Weakness kills passivity and pride 57:00 — One step to embrace your weakness today 1:03:00 — Final thoughts + how to connect with Eric 🔥 TOP QUOTES “I thought being a strong pastor meant never being weak… until weakness saved me.”“God doesn’t work through your image of strength. He works through your dependence.”“If we can’t admit we’re weak, we’ll never experience that God is with us.” 💥 Key Takeaways: You don’t need to be the strongest man in the room — just the most surrendered. Numbing out, anger, and passivity often come from unacknowledged shame. Jesus wasn’t Instagram-worthy — He was despised, rejected, and weak by design. True strength looks like admitting you need help and trusting God to show up. Weakness isn’t the end of your story — it’s where the Gospel begins. 📲 Follow Eric Schumacher Instagram / Twitter: @emschumacher Book: The Good Gift of Weakness
